Today is his day off he works 4 days a week, 3 off . Its now 8:46 pm and he's been watching movies since 10:am. He does this everyday off. he's either watching movies all day, or on the internet all day and doesnt like any disturbance.He doesnt go anywhere with me and the baby. He doesnt do anything around the house on his days off, just sit there and ask me to cook for him twice a day. He gets so mad if me and the baby goes in the living room playing or making any noice. I get ignored all day everyday and i do everything alone. The only way he interacts with me is sometimes he'll come where im at and grab my boobs, or my butt......but no conversation, no nothing.All sexual...What could this be? Its been like this everysince we've had the baby. Shes almost a year old.
2006-11-05 13:51:04 · 12 answers · asked by Kristi A 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i like your answer theorigin..lol
2006-11-05 13:55:49 · update #1
I've asked him many times to go to counseling with me but he says we can't afford it. He keeps saying he's leaving when he gets enough money.....but that time never comes.
2006-11-05 13:56:50 · update #2
i have to beg him to take out the trash, i had to run out in the rain and raise the wondows up on his car because he just too busy watching movies and he said he was scared because it was lightening.
2006-11-05 14:23:14 · update #3
Your husband SERIOUSLY needs to change his list of priorities.
He is very self centered and selfish, thinking only of himself. He needs to remember that he married you and that he has a child with you. And that you and your child should come before him and his needs.
He seriously needs to think of you and your feelings and needs. I know, I used to do the same thing, and my wife and I seperated and it caused me to open my eyes. Thank God we are back together, we have been going through marriage counceling and it has made a HUGE difference in our marriage. About him not wanting to go through counceling, he's making excuses not to go. Because my wife and I see a pastor from our church for our counceling and he don't even charge us at all.
Hope that this helps.
Take care and God Bless
2006-11-05 14:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has done it all I guess. Now what is his purpose? Maybe he feels like as long as he goes to work and pays the bills he has met his obligations. I mean, it's obvious that he takes you for granted. But why? It sounds to me like he just isn't ready to be the old married couple with kids. And if he doesn't have anything else to look forward to, at least he has a good movie and some sex every now and then. You need to give him more responsibilities around the house and with the kid. When he realizes that he is needed and has a greater purpose he may enjoy life a little more. And when the house is cleaned faster, there's more time to play :)
2006-11-05 22:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I husband needs to see a counselor. He has a real problem that he cannot deal with. He is really struggling to tell you something that he cannot say in words. Take it from me. I remember having to deal with something like that when I became a Father the first time. The truth is that love had been lost and I wish I could tell her.
I am not saying that is the situation with your husband. May be he is just scared of this thing of fatherhood. He is saying something that he cannot say in words.
So my suggestion is that you ignore him completely for a while and even suggest a divorce unless he changes and see how he reacts and then you talk. Good luck
2006-11-05 22:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.
If he cares anything about you at all, he will change. If he doesn't, give him a quick wake up call by taking your baby and going to stay somewhere away from him so he can have a chance to experience life without you. That usually puts it in perspective for 'em. I know that sounds drastic, but it's not as drastic as divorce. If you don't do something soon, you may bottle up so much resentment until you can't stand him and don't want to be with him anymore.
2006-11-05 22:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother dumped the twins off took my mother and went to see her sister in california. Mayby you should try something like this. Leave the baby with him go shopping! Give thebaby wooden spoon and a metil pan to bang on! If hes a man he can cook for him self. PS cut the cable
2006-11-05 22:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then hand him his baby on your off day and leave him to take care of her for the day and take no calls from him,when you come home ask him how it felt,and explain to him that's what you do to me and your here.See if he changes then.Your being taken for granted and it's not fair.
2006-11-05 22:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than that!! Woman! Don't waste any more time on this selfish thing of a man! You'll probably regret it if you do. Time is precious and we can't ever get it back. Good luck!
2006-11-05 22:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously resents the baby and is a big baby himself. He wants you to pay attention to him instead. Clearly he's not into the baby, so this is a problem for your family and the baby's future that should be addressed.
2006-11-05 21:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Isabella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That does not sound like much of a marriage. It would be good to get some professional help.
2006-11-05 21:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by mr.answerman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why keep hanging around with someone who doesn't care and won't get counselling?
2006-11-05 22:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋