My husband wants to get a divorce and we have a one year old together who I will never give up. We moved to a new place from VA to TX and I have no job, family lives overseas and do not know what to do now. Don't want to take my little girl away from her daddy but really have no future where I am at (moved less than a year ago) What is the best thing to do next ( legally and physically)
2006-11-05 13:47:43 · 4 answers · asked by Cherie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes dad does want to fight for custody(even though I still nurse her and have been her primary provider) and also there is no abuse or infidelity on either side, but counselling is no longer helpful.
2006-11-05 14:05:42 · update #1
Well, I'm sure you know that if you split up, you won't be able to just leave the state if your husband objects. If he wants a divorce, you can't really stop that. You can recommend counseling, you can try to talk to him about what the problems are and if there are any that can be fixed, work on that. But ultimately, you can't keep him, if you're at all interested in staying together. If you separate, you should spend the time during the process of divorce getting to know people there and becoming active in the community, or with a group of moms single or otherwise so in case you must stay there you at least start to acclimate to your new area.
2006-11-05 13:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to do the best possible thing for the child. Little girls need their Mom's more than they do their Dad's but a man's influence is important as well. First off, you need to find a job even if it is in a daycare where you and your daughter can be together. If you need to move away from TX, legally you can as long as the father agrees. There's really not enough details of the situation here to give a really good answer such as is he disputing you having the child? There are alot of variables that come into play when it comes to child custody.
2006-11-05 21:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Gwynnyth the forest wench 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It you own property now in Texas I would suggest you find away to remain there if you want the property for you and your daughter. There is no way a judge would take such a infant from you, he has to prove you are incompetent first to care for her. If you want to return here in Va., perhaps you have friends or someone here, that could be a choice for you. I am sure he will want you to stay there but he is leaving you with few choices. I would contact social services and talk to someone there asap, as you do not know his intentions to make things more difficult on you. There is no use in getting a Texas attorney if you have plans to return here. Good luck PS, You are the child's mother and you have the same rights as the father does to take her with you wherever you go. It's time to make a plan. Once you are back in Va., contact social services here as well your own attorney to have papers drawn up so your husband can not take your child back.
2006-11-05 22:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i cant help but good luck
2006-11-05 21:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by imurhuckleberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋