One of my closest friends husband is cheating on her.?

Question

I know for sure of it.
He knows that I know as well...
My friend (she) doesn't have a clue. What should I do?
Should i tell her (about this ******* that she is in love with) and break her heart? Or should I keep my mouth shut?
It is driving me insane!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What would you do?

Answer 1

I would have a talk with your girlfriends husband and tell him how much you care about your friend and what he is doing. If you go and tell her it might back fire and she might not want to be your friend anymore.

Answer 2

If you tell her, your relationship will be in danger. You HAVE TO HAVE PROOF!! This happend to me before. I ended up telling someone else about a friend of ours that had cheated on her husband. It got back to the husband and the husband called me and questioned me about it. All I could say is what she had told me, as she was screaming in the background what a liar I was and a home wrecker I was. He chose to stay with her and not talk to me anymore. If I had it to do over again, I would record the conversation with her, or secretly video her or take pictures of what she was doing. Don't just do a he said she said thing...it won't work.

Answer 3

Maybe you could take her out for a nice dinner and ask what she would do and outline the situation you're in and see what her response would be. You don't have to say it's her husband or anything just see her reaction. If her reaction is that she'd like her friend to tell her then try to ever so gently break the news.

Answer 4

I'd definately tell her (gently) but be prepared to have some tangible proof!
Better yet, since you've mentioned he knows that you know, I am guessing that you seen him with the other person(s)??
Wouldn't it be something (and keeps you out of the middle) if you could take her out with you and just show up where this action is taking place..?
If he is going to another girls home, perhaps you could drive her there so she can go knock on the door and ask for her husband.

Answer 5

Quite a dilemma however, I suggest you give slight clues and help her to find out abiout this situation. In the end you will not be accused of destroying a marriage. On the other hand, ask yourself what would you like happen if you were the victim. wWould youwant her tot ell you and how would you feel? Would you be very happy or would you prefer tolive in ignorance? good luck as you try to swim in dirty waters.

Answer 6

If you care about her, tell her, as kindly as possible. She deserves to know what kind of guys she's married to, so that she can choose whether or not she wants to stay with him. She will NEVER forgive you later when she finds out that you knew and said nothing. Then she looses not only her husband, but a close friend as well.

It will break her heart, but it's him that's is breaking it - not you

Answer 7

if you are the friend you say you are. you should tell her. i know it will hurt her but if you think about it. in long run it's will be easier for her. so she can move on. as a friend you should be there for her and show her what a real friend is. don't hide it. because what if she find out and she knew you know. she will hate you. so my advise to you is blow the ******* out of the water and just be a good friend. good luck.

Answer 8

Keep your mouth shut. He'll be found out, they always are. And don't be so sure she doesn't have a clue. She may know and is just not willing to deal with it at the moment.

It's not for you to get into, it's a matter between she and her husband.

Answer 9

I think you should tell her, but be ready for her not to believe you at first. Your putting that little doubt in her mind and hopefully she realizes it sooner than later. Just be there for her when the crap hits the fan. She's going to need all the friends she can get also a very good lawyer.

Answer 10

Yes tell her- wouldn't you want to know.

I was & still am legally married- not living with my hasbeen estranged husband . 36 years
The transportation company he was working for , their driver company service- his ....... now, friends, her husband knew because he was going out with his wife's girlfriend all helped them financally without even knowing .

Mine wanted ME TO ACCEPT/ I DIDN'T: almost died getting away from him. Broken heart, bruises,sarm/elbow, cracked ribs & rape.

I didn't report him to the police- love was stronger
and his conTrol over me. ABUSED WIFE

BUSINESS, MISTRESS & WIFE

He got Business- her money, Mistress- her money - Legal wife- afraid she might spit him out like fried rice. She pays for everything.
He gave up his children & grandchildren for MONEY & SHE THINKS IT IS LOVE

The law says get over it- thats life. I am moving forward slowly it is almost a year and he still continues to lie. She got the bobo prize.

Just so you know his ------ was a younger friend of the family.


So my advice, tell her, you will do her a favour before it is to late. She is in a abused relationship- her husband is commiting adultry- many years ago that was a crime- now it is a slap on the wrist.
You might lose her friendship but you will be able to live with yourself.

Answer 11

I wsa actually in this situation a little while ago. Tell her. Make sure that she knows that you're telling the truth, not being spiteful. She'll be angry, but she will eventually not be angry with you. If you are REALLY her friend, tell her.
Besides, if your significant other was cheating on you, wouldn't YOU want to know?
Don't listen to those who tell you to butt out. It IS your business.