I had been with this guy for two years. but i had to break up with him cuz i found it impossible to love him...the break up went pretty easy...we decided to remain friends. few days ago, i ended up with a new guy..now we both like each other a lot. but my ex now is asking me to go out on a date with him again. he said it is ok if i keep my new boyfriend, but i must go out with him too just as friends. however he also made it clear that he wants me to be romantic with him all over again. he also said to me that he was sure that i still have feelings for him (thats wrong) n i must not let it go. yet he doesn't want me as his girlfriend n he is not jealous of the other guy. right now he is too desperate...when i became single he didn't show this kind of feelings towards me, but now that i am with someone else he is urging me to spend time with him. i simply said no, but he is still forcing me. what exactly is in his mind?
2006-11-05 13:26:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am not talking to him right now.... so please do not give me the advice to keep away from him. i just want to what is his mission.
2006-11-05 13:28:09 · update #1
It's called "dog in the manger" syndrome. He doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone to have you either. It's common when you break up. Then when you find someone else, they want you back, but not really. Guys are as complex as we women are.
2006-11-05 13:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Read your answers - Sharon W gave you good advice. I echo what she said. He is jealous that you are moving on - maybe thinking about the beginning days of your relationship when you both thought it would work. You say he is "forcing" you. If you mean he is agressively trying to get you back that is one thing, and you can deal with this by simply declining his invitations. If he is physically agressive report this to someone who can help you before he really gets agressive.
2006-11-05 14:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by kathy s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a boyfriend so he wants you. Guys are like that. He cannot force you to go out with him.
2006-11-05 13:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks that he lost you, and he did, but stress that he will lose you as a friend if he keeps up this behavoir. he must be a real scum bag if he wants to be the other guy. thats pretty low
2006-11-05 13:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by And i heard as it were a thunder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has realised that you have moved on, and is feeling threatened his ego has been hurt. if you tried for two years and it didnt work, and he or you have done nothing to rectify the situation, it still wont work. tell him to back off. if he doesnt tell him that he will also loose you as a friend too.
2006-11-05 13:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by sharon w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He realizes what he had now its gone he wants it back
He also is seeing if he has any power over you. you are staying away so it it appears that he has little keep it up.
2006-11-05 13:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by dreson k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋