Girls: do you ever feel like just being single even if there's a guy you love?

Question

Say you dated a guy for about a year and things were great and you were about to move in with him, and you guys talked about marriage and having kids, etc. Like two-three months before you guys were suppose to get an apartment you started feeling like this is the guy you'll be with forever and while that is what you want you start to realize you won't ever be single again....that you've jumped from one relationship to another all your life, you just wanted to be single for now...being 21. Does that make sense? Then a few weks before apt. time you guys start arguing and decide to take a break.
I guess what I'm asking is, is it selfish to tell a guy you just wanna be single right now, to have fun with friends, but you know your future is with this guy? Do you think the guy would understand? Wait for you? Like if you said "when I'm ready for a committed relationship, I know you're the one I want"...Do you ever just feel like you need to enjoy being single before you decide to be with som

--eone you know you will be with the rest of your life? Oh yeah and a part of it is that it's a long dist relationship too and lives far away. he treats me like he loves me...hes always there for me and everything. thats not the problem. im 21 and i just feel ive always been in a relationship since HS and never had a chance to be single for that long and now that i have the guy i wanna be with for life, i feel like i need to just be single right now

Answer 1

I'm sure other women have felt that way too. Me included. BUT if you want to be single, then go be single. But stop and think if you want to be single so you can have lots of dates, or do you need "alone" time? It would be unfair to break it off with this guy and expect him to be waiting until you "find" yourself.Once you cut him loose, he is free to do and be with whoever he chooses, and you will have to accept that.

Answer 2

The thing about being single and being married is this: married people dream of the single life because when things get tough, it's okay to walk out. Single people daydream of having someone with them who can't just walk away when the pressure's on.

You obviously want to have it all, and you can't. This guy wants to make a commitment to you and you want to be free and have him waiting in the wings for whenever your mid-life, early life, single life crisis is over. To be fair and considerate, it's not a break, it's a break up. YES, you are being selfish, and when you find yourself all alone at night, be true to your wants and don't call him for sympathy. You're not ready, so don't keep him wrapped around your finger.

Answer 3

im not going to lie i read like the fist few sentences and stopped reading because already i know what your feeling. it will be our year anniversery on the 22nd of this month and we talk about marriage and everything all the time,but sometimes im just like i dont want to be in love yet im 17 but then i realize its to late, and if i ended things just so i could do my own thing i would be breaking the heart of someone who ment the world to me, and not only that i think i would regret it the moment it happened

whateever you decide good luck
and sorry i didnt read all

Answer 4

I went though this. I broke up with him. He did not wait for me. We are now both married to other people with children more than 15 years later and I recently realized I am still in love with him. Its hard to have regrets because I chased my career and had a great time...but I miss him and would be with him in a minute if he would have me, even just for one day. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

......if your'e not ready to settle down, then dont, corz you'll be living in 2 different world's at the same time.......