We live common law in my rented place. We've been fight more and more. He's lazy when he comes home. He's very immature and is negative to my 9yr(not his) He favours our daughter(2yr) He has tempers but hasn't striked me. He'll always bring up money as an issue. He's extreamly jealous ,I can not speak to someone of the opposite sex with out 20 questions. When we fight he will not listen to me and be quiet around the Kids. I stress for him not to do this infront of them but when he's angry he doesn't care what he says. He'll accuse me of things or say mean and hurtfull things & tells me that I will not be able to survive with out him and I might as well sign our Daughter over to him. Later he always appoligizes. I find myself growing farther apart and caring alot less due to this unexcceptable behaviour. But he's right how can one live and support 2 children alone? I raised my 1st born alone and managed but 2 is more dificult. I don't want to move or have my son change schools..HELP!
2006-11-05 13:13:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give yourself more credit. Ofcourse you can do it. You're just afraid of change. We all are. But God never puts more on our plate than we can handle. You must get away from this man. He's doing nothing but bringing you down. And the more and longer he talks like that to you, the more you're going to believe him. It might be hard at first, but you'll be "so" much better off. You and the children. They don't need to grow up around this kind of behaviour and you know it.
Make a plan, and stick to it. He won't be able to take the daughter from you. Courts always, (especially nowadays), want children to have the right to both parents. If you're struggling to make ends meet....It doesn't mean you're a bad parent.
Stand up, and make a stand....for you, and especially for the kids.
Get away from him....the sooner the better......
Good luck.......
2006-11-05 13:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental abuse is abuse too. It isn't just hitting. Your children don't need to be around this abuse. Go to a women's shelter, a relatives, a friends. Don't use money as an excuse, the sooner you get out of the situation the less long term harm will be done to your kids. Do you want your son thinking it's OK to yell at women or your daughter to think a man can abuse her? If you don't know where to go, go to the police, your local WIC office, your local Department of Human Services... They will all point you in the right direction.
2006-11-05 13:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds familiar sorry about your situation I have a 3 year old and 2 year old I am the only one working and he is lazy and a bad house wife I want him to leave but my hours at work are crazy and I need him to watch the kids. No one else will. So I am stuck with a negative jerk that dose not work or help around the house . He knows I am stuck I cant wait until the kids go to school he is SO gone But he dose not know that shhhhhhhh. lol
2006-11-05 13:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most cities have women's and childrens' shelters. You might seek help there. Money is not the issue as far as a safe and secure environment for your children. The school year is only half over, pulling your son out should not be the focus as to uprooting them if the situation is becoming increasingly dangerous and hostile. Seek help.
2006-11-05 13:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not violent, kick him out. You can get AFDC (aid to family with dependent children) or welfare. DO NOT be ashamed of needing that. I did it for 5 yrs after I got out of an abused marriage. I went to school, got a great job and I did it all myself. It's hard, but worth it. The attitude he has will ruin the kids. Protect them and yourself. Good luck.
2006-11-05 13:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by FireBug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can survive without him and if you are ready then u go and you will have to get gover. assist. but that is what it is there for ppl who really do need it. and if u want to try to work it out tell him this next time he says that to you............you might think i cant make it but u will have a hard time paying for the price of living and paying child support. i hate to say it but if u try to approach how u feel to him and he doesnt want to listen then sometimes you have to fight fire with fire and trust me you can make it alone it will be hard and u will have to get a good job and work like heck but u can do anything for the best intrests for you and your children. best of wishes.
2006-11-05 13:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by nuzzihuzzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any family members that will let you stay with them get a job if you dont have one there are people that can help with food and clothes, medical it will take a little time to save up but when you have enough move to your own place
2006-11-05 13:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Avis S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only going to get worse, he's testing you to see what he can get away with and eventually he's going to be more and more aggresive, leave him. You have parents right its ok to ask for help u know. Have friends im sure they would be more then willing to help. As for making it on your own lots, and i mean lots of people do it sure its not easy but hey it beats getting beat.
2006-11-05 13:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kick him out. He is very abusive to you and I think he has designs on your daughter. He might be a paedophile. Keep your daughter away from him. Don't let him touch her. I stress it again.............KICK HIM OUT. Seek help from women's group.
2006-11-06 03:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your situation is tuff...i think the government sends money to single parents...and your husband can also give you money...i am soo sorry about this situation..but this is all I could say...i wish you good luck and hope for your marriage to work out
2006-11-05 13:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mololina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋