How do I stop being crass?

Question

My best friend and I had an arguement. She says that I'm completely insensitive, when it comes to her feelings. And I agree with her on some levels. Truth is (because of a past bad relationship and other issues) I've been this way for a few years and we've only been best friends for about a year. None of my other friends complain. I respect the fact she may be is different from my other friends and need something more from me. Maybe I'm more insensitive to her, why, I don't know... --I told her all of this in an email (she has not responed yet), I am willing to tell her to her face, but she is not talking to me at this time-- I want to change, I love her and I want to make our friendship work. This change is huge, because I've been this way for so long. Where do I begin? How do I change?

Answer 1

Well I see you have answered your question!

You realise you want to change and so eventually you will. As long as you strive to change and better yourself it will happen.

Keep asking yourself questions about your nature, writing them down is better and then try to answer them write your answers down too, make you cry it can.

You see only a good person can admit to their faults, so you see as soon as you admit it you are good!

It can be that quick to change I experience it every day.

Answer 2

You can't base your actions or responses to pass relatioships with other friends u must deal with each indivdual diffrently .The way u respon to the friends that you knew for along time knows how to deal with u because they know how u are and excpt u for who u are. The friend that u have now For a year she is still geting to know you so she not going to see things how your friends see things. How u can change is learn to be a good listner when giving advice always leave her with the decision of makeing her on choices and leting her know the consiquence of her decision wether it's a good one are bad so when the out come happens it was by her choice. You must chang your way of thinking and how how u see your self think postive keep a open mind and dont lose the faith.

Answer 3

Friendship is a two way street. Some times you give some times you take. However it is important to be sensitive to your friend in times of need, that is part of being a friend. True we are how we are due to experiences in our past. We need to grow and learn, not go in a shell and make excuses for ourselves, oh I can't because bla bla bla.....your character is bulit out of what you do because of bad experiences, good times don't require much. I think you realize this and are coming to terms with yourself you need to rethink your defination of what a friend is and act accordingly. :Your friend has not responded because she probably wonders how sincere you really are. You are on the right track keep moving forward in your own search of self.