My ex-lover who's married broke up with me because he said i cannot keep our affair to myself. It was painful but a lot was at stake, my hubby and kids...I strayed because my mariage wasn't going well but now, we are together again to make it work for the kids sakes. all was well until i found out that my ex is really hitting on my good friend. I don't know whether to warn her or not because my affair with him might be revealed if i do and i definitely do NOT want that to happen. So, how can i tell her without her knowing about me? That guy might just tell her that i am jealous because he doesn't like me but i want to take revenge and actually thinking of telling his wife with an anonymous phone call just to teach him a lesson...help!
2006-11-05 13:04:30 · 10 answers · asked by angelheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u need to focus on the husband and kids, not all of this drama, revenge never works, intead it backfires, and keeps us from moving on and loving our life. this other man is bad, and u should be glad your hubby is still there. why go back into this mess, sure he hurt u, and u want him to suffer as u did, but it's not your place to get involved again, your place is focusing on your life. and family. let the other girl learn the same way u did, and she probroly would not believe u anyway. don't bring grief on yourself or family that doesn't need to be. your a bigger person than that. revenge is not ours to give, if someone had hurt me like he hurt u, the last place i would go is back to a situation that would hurt me again. love the man your with, don't be concerned with this man, or what he does, it is none of your business, and will just cause u more pain.
2006-11-05 13:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with most of the others on this subject however i do want you to know what goes around comes around. 360 baby.. i don't see anything right about you with another person if you are already involved with someone please please don't take this the wrong way.. just know yes, there is a lot at stake and you are going to be in serious trouble even if you do keep your mouth shut because i know that outside of the affair and on here.. there's one more person that does know. keep that in mind.
Also.. i want to add..be a good example for your kids too:-)
2006-11-05 13:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a recepie for disaster. Tell your ex very firmly to STOP, and change your number, and email addresses. Once you have told her to STOP, never reply or respond again, and if she continues, you should get a restraining order. I agree with some of the others, show your wife the messages, and get your wife to tell her off!.......That should get rid of her. Who the hell does she think she is playing games like this??? You're married!
2016-05-22 02:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go or it may come back to haunt you. I know you feel the pain of the loss and the rejection I have been there almost the same story..move on with your life and let it go she will learn. If you show no emotion he may not keep hitting on her, it might just be to make you jealous.
~Good Luck~
2006-11-05 13:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Round and round what goes around comes around. and when it does its going to land right on your head you silly vindictive little girl.
so your married ex-boyfriend doesn't want you anymore but wants your friend. go ahead and open your mouth to get your revenge. if only for the reason that you will be busted for you transgressions, and your husband can get the hell away from you before you take advantage of his trust again
2006-11-05 13:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if you think this guy is bad news, she's your friend and you need to protect her from getting hurt...and if she finds out about your affair then so be it...but atleast you helped her from making a mistake...and dont call this guys wife...thats childish what you really need to do is tell your husband, he's going to find out one of these days and if it isnt from you then your guys marriage would probably def. be over
2006-11-05 13:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would def do the phone call and also just leave your friend find out on her own the truth always comes out...
2006-11-05 13:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by luvprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number at the Jerry Springer Show is........
2006-11-05 13:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
warn her but don't ring his wife but tell him you will tell her if he doesn't. but you have to tell your husband because if you don't he will.
2006-11-05 13:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by whay i lost my ?s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it
2006-11-05 13:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Blackdog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋