I cannot sleep, relationship problems, not eating, crying, and extremely sad. Running out of things to keep?

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MATURE ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE NO KIDs!

me busy. This is a serious question only the mature answer. I moved away from my home state and there aren't many I know where I live now. I work from home which means I don't really have co-workers/peers to deal with. I try surfing the net, reading, watching home decorating channels but I am still finding myself sad and now crying alot. My relationship is tearing me apart and I am at a lost. Can anyone give me really great advice which could help lift my spirits. Any ideas on what I can do to keep my mind off of my worries? I have some new interests, which mean guys who are interested in me, but I keep shutting them out. I just don't feel like being bothered by them b/c I still have feelings for the ex. We are currently seperated right now. He is a few years younger than I, he is having problems dealing with my past. Trust me it is not that bad... my past that is. Anyhow please help... depressed... and feeling sick to my stomach.

I would like to thank everyone for reaching out to me. I am receiving such lovely answers and all are best answers. I wish I could give to each and every one of you. As I am reading your responses I weep, but it is okay because this pain I have kept inside of me for 2 mos. I need to let it out. I am also taking the advice somewhat, I am burining aromatherapy incents. I will try and learn how to meditate.

Thank you so much to each and everyone of you. I cannot thank you enough for such kind words and support at this moment I feel alone. My children and ex have burdened me and it is my fought for enabling them all. Thank you once more.
K

Answer 1

I was the same way until one day i figured it is only me that has to help me.We live only one time and life is really a gift from god so dont wast it by watching TV or being deppressed.I started learning meditation and it changed my life I am so peacefull now.And now I know why those days I was so sad.Is because I had to learn meditation and be more than what I was last month or year.I think this is just a limeted period of time that you are deppressed and it will pass.This is because you have to learn something.Maybe you have to learn that only you can change your mind by just starting to change your thoughts.Meditation is greate.
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Answer 2

Okay sassysugar, you need to get up, shake off the dust and move on. I understand that it is hard to do, and I appreciate the fact that you say your past is not that bad. I am inclined to believe that, which means your ex probably has another agenda, and he is using your past as an excuse to move on. I have been through a similar phase, and it takes time but you will survive it, and it will make you a stronger woman.

May I suggest that you not start dating now. You are vulnerable right now, and the last thing you want to do is pour your heart out to another guy - they will likely take advantage of you then. Besides rebound relationships are not the best. Cry if you have to, but please eat something. It is not worth making yourself sick over this. IM me if you'd like to, and may be hopefully you will make new friends where you are.

I wish you all the best from my heart. I feel your pain.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are depresses and may need to see a doctor for some medicine, I'm on lexapro because all I did was cry, worry and feel sad all the time. It's helping me and I can tell when I miss a dose. Also I never felt like doing anything just going to work coming home and sitting. I have three kids I was missing out on and now enjoy and do thing with them. There is hope out there and help. I'm sure you are a great person and life is too short to be unhappy. good luck.

Answer 4

Well, that's a lot to deal with. I'm not sure if this will help, but go out and meet some new people. If you shut yourself from the world, how will you ever expect to move on. If I were in your position, I would go meet some new people and have some fun, like go partying or something. Locking yourself up and beating yourself up from all of the terrible things that have happened will only make things worse. Go out into the world and eventually, you'll move on and get over this stage of your life.

Answer 5

I would suggest that you get some HELP FAST!!! Depression is not something that you should mess around with. You need to take this serious, depression is an illness. Seek prefessional help ASAP! There are medications and therapy that can help you. Is it possible for you to work out of the home? To get some social interaction. Maybe an animal could help? A kitten/puppy so that you have some companionship?!?! Just a suggestion. I hope tha you get help soon.

Answer 6

You need to get out of the house, and get some fresh air! go to art show, museum, library, somewhere there is other people, that you can just talk, because staying in the house is not going to doing you any good, and you thinking about it, and making yourself depress isn't helping your health. And I know this sounds a bit rough, but you need to realize that the relationship maybe over, and you need to move on. But right now you don't need to get involved with anyone until you get over what you are going through. So good luck and find some fun!

Answer 7

Time to seek professional help. It is the only way to go. I had to do it and I'm still sad because I'm desperately in love and am not with him. I know what you mean by running out of things to keep. It's happened to me twice in the last 20 months or so. Feels like there's nothing to hang on to and no hope left. Total being alone. It's horrible and I have health issues as well. But it's not as bad as it would be if it wasn't for professional help. Go and get help before you get worse........good luck,,,,

Answer 8

This is an answer from a very mature person, over 60. Men aren't worth getting upset over. I lived in one place for 30 years and moved and yes it is different but I am finding I am happier being by myself than being with someone who has issues etc. No relationship is perfect, they all have bumps but you work them out if you are in love with each other, definitely not worth getting sick over, been there, done that. I moved 800 miles to be with someone who said they loved me, when I got there, he treated me badly and told me he decided he was not in love with me and did not want me there so I left and came back to no apartment and everything in storage. I cried, I was upset and for what, he was not worth it and he never said he was sorry. I say move on, get out socialize, volunteer, date, whatever, life goes on and if he can't deal with past issues, he will never be able to deal with all the things that come along in a relationship. You only have one life, don't waste it.

Answer 9

Maybe you should try getting out of the hse more often to take ur mind off things. Find a hobby or maybe go the library, movies, book stores....just something else to keep your time occupied & your thoughts. When you get home have a plan of things you NEED to do so you don't start back in ur "rut" thinking of him. Good luck

Answer 10

Try a new hobby. Take a class of any subject you're interested in. You'll meet people and you'll be busy. I'm sort of in the same boat. I just need to find a subject I have an interest in.