how can i express myself when everything i say or do ends up being something i regret having said or done?

Question

including this question

i guess i have to study math or something cut and dried like that.

anything else where you express yourself or show some creativity... i just can't do it. i worry way too much about the result, before i've even begun.
even if what i'm doing turns out okay and somewhat acceptable to other people.... i know myself that it sucks.
papers, audio recordings, things like that.

i guess i always want what i submit to be above what i'm capable of producing. so things i do will always be failures no matter what.

so..... what do i do?

Answer 1

Just take a few seconds to think about what you want to say first

Answer 2

Whoa! How negative can you be?

I have no idea how old you are but I noticed that you managed to express yourself rather well in your question. The only thing I got from it though is that you are really down on yourself right now. We all - everyone - worry about the results of what we do. We all are afraid we will do something that doesn't measure up, or that someone will make fun of us for doing or saying something the way we did. Guess what? If you have done your best you may be doing a better job than you realize and just not have the confidence to believe in yourself. If you really believe that your projects or expressions don't measure up, then you have some options. First, educate yourself better on whatever topics you want to succeed.

I raised 3 children - all different to the point that they seemed to come from different planets. I gave them all the same kind of advice about success in this life. Don't ask yourself, what careers make a lot of money - doctor, lawyer, engineer??? Ask yourself what are you really interested in - what do you like to do? When you answer that question, educate yourself in that field and try to get to the top of that field, and you will be successful. We all have different strengths - that's why some people are doctors, some are accountants and some are authors. We don't get to choose our talents, but we can recognize that we have them. Ask some of your friends (not the guys that slap you on the back and tell you what a doofus you were to do something the way you did - these are the guys who have made you feel as you do), but ask some GOOD friends for
some good advice and an honest summation of why you feel the way you do. Most of us have a good friend who will help us in this way. If not, make one. Work on the failings you have - takes all of us time to correct mistakes. But don't be so critical of yourself if everything you do doesn't win first prize. Just laugh it off and say, well, this isn't my strong suit but I'm always willing to try. Most people will admire your I'm ready for anything attitude. Compliment sincerely people who excel at something where you feel you need improvement. Flattery may get you good advice on how to improve your own performance (Remember I said sincerely). Bet your not such a failure after all. After all, you are thinking of ways to improve yourself right now. Keep at it.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Are you sure you're not focusing on something too much? When you do that you make something insignificant BIGGER that is was in reality. Ask your friends for feedback. Most likely it's not even a big deal.

There was an management exercise where the attendees had to dress up formally, carry a briefcase, walk into a shopping center and yell at the top of their voice anything for 5 mins. There were people grading them. This was done to combat too much self concern.

Answer 4

I clicked on this question because it sounds so familiar. I used to have the same problem. Really, you have to just get over the fact that there's always going to be people who respond negatively to your creativity. It sounds to me like you have a lack of confidence in yourself, and aren't satisfied with who you really are. There's not much of any easy way out, or any tips anyone can give you. It's hard, but you have to dig deep, and find your inner confidence, and stop worrying about other people. It's hard to not be overly-critical of yourself, but it's worth it if you can just eventually learn to reason out these negative thoughts by pointing out positive points of your papers, audio recordings, etc.

Answer 5

Ok... you need to stop being so hard on yourself let it go everything dosent have to be perfect! And if your worried about saying something stupid to somebody the worst they can do is make fun of you or they could think your funny! Lighten up and just have fun with life!!

Answer 6

Free yourself of fearing others opinions. Keep on trying, and producing. Do not give up. Do you know that those who are so happy with what they do and say, complacent to their own work, are the ones who should regret, and fail to acknowledge or grow. And, like yourself those that challenge their own works, behaviors and so on are probably the ones that never cease to grow and learn. Complacency is inversely proportional to growth. What should you do, keep on producing, do not fear failure and do not fear rejection. It is then you will contribute something substancial with your diligence. If you try and fail, you have not failed. If you fail to try , you have failed.