I'm a married 27 y/o female who has been friends with single, 52 year old "Tim" for the past 7 years. I met Tim when I was very lonely, and I kind of adopted him as a surrogate father.(My own father was emotionally abusive). Tim is a great friend, but he's neurotic. He has an advanced degreee, but hasn't started working in his field due to shyness. In addition, his frustration with his inability to meet women (he's had a few relationships with women over the years, but never been married or seriously involved) has turned him into a bitter resentful person. I'm starting to feel wierd hanging out with him, and furthermore, I spend more time with him then with my husband! Tim's lack of work ethic really brings me down. Should I take a break from him, or just end things all together? Our large age gap means we don't have much of a common vantage point anymore, and the more I get involved with my career (I'm an attorney) and my husband, the less time I have to deal with his drama.Help!
2006-11-05 12:32:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you and your emotional stability can't afford to spend a great amount of time with Tim. Much better off to dump him and get on with the important things and people in your own life.
2006-11-05 14:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, this remains your husband? Are you nuts? quite? are you nuts? I anticipated this question to be about a husband having a buddy who's lady, yet you're speaking about a guy who has a toddler with somebody else. it really is a thoroughly different relationship. No ask your self you at the instantaneous are not acquaintances. i do not see how taht marriage can secure. in any respect.
2016-11-28 19:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by papen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good frriendship is certainly possible, but in your case I'd say that it has run its course. Do some fun things with your husband.
2006-11-05 12:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people fall away from each other and there is nothing wrong with that. You have your own life, family and priorities. Maybe he is no longer a priority.
2006-11-05 12:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Reckless Ambition 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump tim and concentrate on your hubby now is when you build the foundation for your twilight years....
2006-11-05 12:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be honest with him and maybe know how you feel will help him be a better person but i could see where it could cause problems in a marriage
2006-11-05 12:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by allison b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes, l have alot of female friends that are very special and thats as far as it goes, just friends.
2006-11-05 12:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋