why do people refuse to beat there children when they do something teribly wrong?

Question

i notice that in usa and other part of the country, beating is like a taboo.

Answer 1

Because it irreparably damages a child's soul.

Answer 2

I don't know if 'beating' is the right word; that, to me, describes an act that is not thought out, happens instantaneously with no warning, and is often extreme in its force. A child does not need a beating- few people do. A light spanking, however, one that is done when the parent is in perfect control of his/her feelings and not taking out rage on the child, is absolutely fine if warranted- it is not the hardness of the smack that should be the punishment, but the very act of spanking- something humiliating and rare and slightly painful that shows that you have done something very bad. It's taboo, I think because so many parents can't do it correctly- they beat instead of spank- and that can do pyschological damage to the child. Also, although I advocate having spanking in a parent's arsenal of parenting tools, I think you can raise up wonderfully disciplined children without it, too.

Answer 3

I wouldnt say beat that sounds like child abuse to me,my kids always get shouted at if there naughty they have had a tap on the bum or leg(very rarely) but i wouldnt beat them,most of the time i just end up loosing my voice through shouting so much,i was smacked when i was young by my mum but it never did me any harm me and my mother never used to get on but now i have moved out (10 yrs ago) i get on better plus havin 3 children showed me how hard it was to bring 3 kids up especially when she was on her own im quiet lucky i have my husband to help me as well.My gran says people in barbados always use a belt on there kids if there naughty doesnt matter what age they get a clip.

Answer 4

You've made a big mistake using the word 'beat',it's way ott even for people who believe in giving a child a slap.I think you should warn a child that their behaviour is unacceptable,if they persist then a short,sharp slap should be sufficient to get your message across.Never use a weapon,(belt etc).'Grounding' is more cruel than a slap,i just couldn't keep a child indoors for days on end,a slap there & then & it's over & done with.

Answer 5

well for one thing, they can grow up not knowing how to construct intelligent sentences...kind of like yours.
beating and harsh spanking is disrespectful...it is always done in anger...do parents ever hit their kids while they're happy and in a good mood? it doesn't teach your child to respect you, it teaches them to fear you. it break a child's spirit, reduces their self-confidence, and teaches them not to trust...and parents can't understand why their kids don't come to them when they have problems or need advice. you all know of women who are with men who batter them, and question why they didn't leave...why would they? they've been conditioned to believe that's how love is expressed, they feel worthless and believe they deserve to be mistreated. and just about everyone can remember being bullied at one time or another...kids who get beaten at home act out their anger by beating up on and bullying others'. some kids turn it inward, upon themselves...they can become anorexics, cutters, self-medicators, etc, etc, etc. not too many kids who get beaten grow up to be fully emotionally healthy adults. and the cycle continues....
parents who beat and hit their kids are nothing more than ignorant bullies who don't have the intelligence to understand the difference between punishment and discipline...to discipline means to teach.
how would you like it if every time you made a mistake at work your boss gave you a beating...would you stay at that job?
if you are a parent who hits, and would like to learn a different way to "discipline," seek out organizations in your community, such as, parents without partners, the parents education network, or visit the following websites:
http://www.parentingwithdignity.com/
http://www.parentingproject.org/
http://www.familyfirst.net/
http://www.safefromthestart.org/index.aspx

Answer 6

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It's no different from someone hitting you in the streets, also, it's child abuse too, if a child does something wrong, you should educate them on the matter, and help them develop a more solid grasp of morals and law, not beat them, what's that teaching them; that violence is acceptable, that if someone does something you don't agree with, that it's your right to beat the seven shades out of them, and they will only make the same mistakes with their children in the future.

Then there's the possible psychological ramifications of something like this.

Answer 7

Some parents take "beatings" too far.
To spank a child is one thing, but some parents will beat their children with tools and belts, etc. Those types of things leave psychological as well as physical marks. Some children become aggressive while others shrink into themselves. It's hard to find middle-ground with this type of thing.

Punishment doesn't need to be physical.

Answer 8

honestly how can you beat a child ! they are innocent little human beings!so they are sometimes naughty is that cause to beat them! they are smaller than you they cannot defend themselves ! are you crazy or something ! why do you want children if all you thinking about is beating them! if they are naughty take away there TV privileges ! just by using the word beat you don't sound normal !

Answer 9

Beating is the unleashing of anger and is not an effective punishment for a child. Rules, expectations, responsibilities and taking away privileges work.

Answer 10

Because so many don't spank their kids but use objects and beat them leaving marks. I think it's ok to simply spank them with an open hand and not get carried away. I've found depriving them of privilages was the best. Sometimes I'd have them clean something and they hated that. We have so much child abuse and so many not discipling at all it's crazy.

Answer 11

You don't need to beat a child into submission. Obviously .. just ask in a certain way and the child will do whatever you say. No need for beatings..