2006-11-05 12:10:48 · 22 answers · asked by Jeremy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How would we know? I suggest you have a long talk with her about it. And just out of curiosity does this originate from a guilty conscience?
2006-11-05 12:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to make you ask this question? I am a military spouce and yes I have seen alot of this happen, but if everything was going fine when you left, then I would suspect that NO she did not cheat on you. There are a lot of times when the spouce comes home from war and they have changed due to things they have seen or done and the spouce does not understand the changes. The best thing that I can suggest to do is to talk to her in a way that will not start a fight, express your concern to her. If she is willing to talk to you about your concerns then I would think that she did not cheat. Also take a good look at the reason for your feelings, is it some type of lack of self esteem or feeling like she deserves better than you? Some of the men that I know that have come home go through these types of feelings, so talk to her.
2006-11-05 20:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without knowing all the "she has done this and that" this question is sill totally up to you for being the only one that will has the answer. if there is some hints that she has, look into this more. asking her will only confuse you more, if she has cheated on you she'll not come out and tell you so the work will be on your hands, or you can try to over come this and more on, and moving on after thinking she has cheated with another will not be a road that i would like to be on either, walking a road after hearing that she has cheated will only be possible with the truth from her. good luck with your quest and try to keep a level head and ask question and answer all question too, be honest with her and even if she has lied in the past knowing that your being totally honest will bring out the honesty in her too. its going to be a long road so make plenty of pit stops along the way...
2006-11-05 20:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would anyone know this? I mean really...are you asking if it's a given? I don't think so, and would you really marry a person who would intentionally hurt you in this manner? Was your relationship rocky before leaving? Give a basis for your question. Hopefully your wife loves you enough to keep to herself and entertain only ideas of being with you when you returned. You married her for a reason and I would think somewhere in the reason there was trust, love and honor. Would you cheat if the the tables were turned? Don't assume your wife entertains the idea of cheating solely on the basis of your own thoughts. Keep it real dude, she married you remember! Your the man who won her heart, don't be the man to lose her heart to fictitious fantasy. Good luck.
2006-11-05 20:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some spouses do cheat. I think that you need to have a talk with her and discuss your concerns. I also think that you may want to get counseling together. There may be some underlying problems that is causing your concern. Also I work in a military clinic and have been working with post deployment patients who are in the same situation and are seeking counseling for this and their issues with seeing what happens during the war.
2006-11-05 20:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by Debra M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like others have said, unless you tell us more about the situation we can't really even guess. I was a military wife for 20 years, and never cheated. I don't like that some people say all women cheat. Whatever! Men cheat too!!! Mine did! I have seen a lot of it, and if you wonder...ask her! Check computer, bank statements, cellphone records, etc.... Get proof!! Good luck!
Thanks for all that you do for our country!
2006-11-05 21:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an army wife myself and I know that a lot of women cheat on their husbands while they are deployed but that doesn't mean that your wife has cheated
2006-11-05 22:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this to her....................
It doesn’t matter anymore.
I used to sit and wonder to myself,
what it was, I did so wrong.
Could I have treated you different?
or wrote you, a beautiful song.
I loved you with all of my heart,
and I believed, you truly loved me.
You used to say, I was your true love,
and there was no place, you’d rather be.
How could a love so wonderful and pure,
change, from the day we first met.
Was it I, who did you wrong,
or a friend, I will never forget.
But now, it truly doesn’t matter anymore,
why, you hurt and cheated on me.
Because I know, deep in my heart,
It wasn’t I, who cheated on thee.
So I just want you to know,
that if you ever, think of us two.
My life was truly changed, my dear,
and I deserve, a lot better than you.
By: Kenny P aka- Cobra
2006-11-05 20:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sad to say when men are away, the women will play. Seriously it depends on how long you have been deployed, if it's more than 3 months then yeah she will cheat on you. Women cannot stand a long period of time without making love, so they do what comes natural be it with or without you.
2006-11-05 20:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nice Guy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possibly. The ones who cheat, will cheat when you're around, so why wouldn't they when you're not around. If she did, she'll probably cheat with you back. Good luck and kick his a-- if she did.
2006-11-05 20:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋