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im 15 years old n i found out im preagant. should i or should i not keep it. why or why not.

2006-11-05 12:10:06 · 21 answers · asked by keke12 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

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i think yes you should keep it because i think that if you give it up and later in life you will always wander what your baby is doing and when you have more and your child finds out about it they will resent ypu for it because you gave that one up

2006-11-05 12:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by sam 4 · 2 0

That is something you will need to discuss with your family and doctors. We cannot make that decision for you. It really depends on whether you can afford a baby and will have people there to support you and help you. Adoption may be very difficult, but it is an option and you can make sure that the baby goes to a family that will love the baby and give the baby a wonderful life. Good luck.

And I just have to add, for the person that said "don't get close to IT at all", it would take a cruel cruel woman to not get close to her baby after carrying one for 9 months, giving birth and have to just let that go. It would be very hard for anyone. And you do not screw up your life. The decision was made to have sex knowing that you could get pregnant. People can't just get pregnant all the time and throw their baby away. There is a lot of thinking that goes into a decision like that.

2006-11-05 12:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by tmac 5 · 1 0

I think only you and your family can know the best answer. Please look at adoption if you find it will not work for you. So many couples want a baby and cannot conceive, don't let abortion be an option.
I think if your family is supportive you could make it work, but you have to know life is no longer about only you! There is another life involved and you need to make a decision out of love and sacrifice, not selfishness. Make the decision that is best for the baby as well as your family and you. As the others said, at 15 it will completely change your life. And if the father is not completely supportive, financially, emotionally and spiritually you both will suffer.

2006-11-05 12:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 1 0

You should keep your baby. Listen to what your heart says.. any one can be a good mother.. doesnt matter how old you are. I had my first baby very young.. I wouldnt change it for all the money in the world. I had no support system, I made it. Just listen to your instincts and everything will be fine. There are a lot of people out there willing to help you, all you have to do is ask. If you give up your miracle then one day your child will want to meet you and wonder why you gave him/her up, its very hard for adoptive children to come to terms with the feelings that they were unwanted. My best friend was adopted, he has found it very difficult. If you can love yourself, you can love your baby

2006-11-05 12:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Cassidy 1 · 1 0

Ya know that is a question that in the end has to be totally up to you... 15 or 25 you are no different then any other mother!!!!! I mean you carried a baby for 9 months and in the end you will have an emotional bond with that baby, and love that baby.. wouldnt that be just a crappy thing to say if we said you should give your baby up just because of your age? Being so young makes it so much harder... But you do have the option to maybe team up with a temp foster family and still be in your childs life until you can support it yourself.. Adoption is better then abortion so kudos for you on that one..

2006-11-05 12:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Fashion Diva 3 · 1 1

It depends on your level of maturity and the support you're gonna get from family and friends. My mother was pregnant with me when she was 16. Her parents offered to adopt me themselves, but she refused, and I am very glad she did, because I had a really happy childhood with a very loving mother. She eventually married my father, and we were a happy family together. Now I have a family of my own, and even though I consider myself a great mother, I think my mother is still the best ever. I don't think I would have made a great mom myself when I was 16, but I can guarantee you that many women these days can still be bad moms at ANY age - even 50! So think about it, meditate on it, and be honest with yourself about how you feel. From there find information on whatever decision you made, then talk to a parent or other trusted adult about it. You CAN do it, but only if you truly want to, and you have someone's support.

2006-11-05 12:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by veroanique 2 · 1 0

Having a baby & raising it is a big responsibility for any woman, even if she is married & has all the resources she needs. Hardest job any woman can take on. For some one 15,Oh! it is going to be tough. Babies are demanding & expensive. You will need to ask yourself what is best for the baby. You do owe that baby a chance at life. You are not finished school, no job, how will you support the little one. Hard it maybe for you. But there are many people who can & will give that baby everything it will need to have a good life. Do you owe that baby that life. Going to be rough on you, but it may the most loving thing a mother could do. What is best for the baby. Good Luck.

2006-11-05 12:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I was pregnant with my oldest at 16 and had her at 17. I kept her... But I had a VERY good family support. You will have to get a job to pay for your baby, and you will miss out on alot UNTIL your baby is older... BUT that is not bad.... because when people are young, they lack the knowledge to know how to party or hang out responsibly.. meaning people are more spontaneous and do not think things through (drunk driving ect..) When you are older and your baby is older... you will have alot more self control.. you will be more financially secure to be able to go out and have fun and you will be much wiser... But it is a choice you have to make based on your own personal situation. I suggest you talk to teenage moms, there are organizations and such that can put you in touch with them.... and see how their life is. I personally would make the same choice now if I knew what I know now and was faced with the decision again! If you would like to talk to me you may! I am always here to talk to girls in your situation because I to was in your situation! You can contact me through my profile and I will send you my email address so I can tell you my experience! Please what ever you do, do not abort that precious child within you! If you do decided to not keep the baby then give the baby up for adoption! Again, if you like to chat I am here for you!

2006-11-05 13:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

It is very hard for a 15 year old woman to become a mother. You will have problems completing school and finding work. It will be hard for you to support your baby.

If you decide to carry the baby and give birth, giving the baby up for adoption can be good for both you and for your baby. There are many men and women who have the means to raise a baby but can't have babies on their own. They can offer your baby a loving home.

Try doing a search on 'direct adoption'. I put one example in sources.

There are many ways to arrange for adoption, including some ways where you get to meet the people who want to adopt your baby and decide for yourself if you want the baby to go to them. You can also work with agencies in advance for the adoptive parents to pay for your medical care while you are pregnant and pay for your childbirth expenses.

good luck!

2006-11-05 12:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

This will be your biggest decision of your life. Keeping the baby means nights of no sleep, giving up going out with your friends, juggling your homework, with feedings, and ALWAYS putting yourself second to the needs of someone that depends on you. Giving the child up means a sense of loss, but it also gives the baby a chance at a happy life. People who adopt are people that are emotionally and financially ready for children, which you are not. But remember that one day that child will come back and find you with alot of tough questions for you to answer.

2006-11-05 12:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0 1

I would say at fifteen it's probably better to arrange for an adoption. Your baby would probably do better growing up with a mature mom in a two-parent family. I'm sure you'd do the best you could, but it's hard to finish high school and start your life when you have a baby.

2006-11-05 12:13:34 · answer #11 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0 1

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