I am british I have been in the US for 6 years I just want to know what your experiance/frustrations are regard sense of humour? I say things to my husband jokingly and POOF he thinks I just insulted him and so on and so! how do you get by with this?? I have tried to be more considerate in some ways but wow it's very frustraing at times!lol
2006-11-05 12:03:45 · 6 answers · asked by sicilyuk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I get this all the time. I grew up in an Irish American (first generation) household and we were a rough crowd. We say awful things to one another deadpan and outsiders think we're being awful when really we're being affectionate.
It took my very gentle husband a long time to tumble to this. I had to soften my deadpan delivery, and he has learned to make at least mildly sardonic wisecracks himself. But it was a learning process.
Someone else said you should watch/listen to British comedy together. I think that's a great suggestion. The first time I heard Monty Python, I roared and screamed with laughter, but since nobody around me got the joke, I had to educate them. My husband thinks they're funny now but when we first met he just thought they were weird. heh.
Good luck with it and don't change; there's a lot to be said for subtlety and droll wit rather than slapstick.
2006-11-05 12:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by sparticle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
British humour has a tendency to be all double entendre, innuendo and smut...for which i'm fullyyt grateful lol they have an sensible subtle humour at situations, mutually as the yank humour seems very slap stick and on your face, without room for subtlety...i'm basing this in basic terms on humour got here across on television. Australians are somewhat stable at taking the piss out of themselves and function a feeling of humour that no longer all human beings seems to get. I grew up on the British sitcoms like Robin's nest and George and Mildred, Monty Python and Fawlty towers, so i'm consistently going to lean in the direction of the Brit humour, and of direction i'm Australian so i'm somewhat fond of our own sense of humour
2016-10-21 08:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This issue should of been resolved before you got married.
He needs to understand your humor no matter where you are from.
My family would fit in to your humor and we are swedish americans. When my sisters now husband first met the family he thought we were all being rude to each other..then he had to learn and understand our sense of humor. Now he fits in even if you call him our token ....( I dare not say it here). He jokes right back at us.
Keep having discussions with your husband to help him understand your sense of humor. Get counseling if need be.
I had the same problem with a man I dated for awhile. Eventually he understood. Part of his issue was his lack of self esteem and he got angry and hurt very easy.
Keep your sense of humor. Maybe make your husband watch English programs and movies and point out the humor.
Another idea is to once you have said something humorous quickly say....english humor honey and wink at him.
2006-11-05 12:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not have anything to do with your spouses national origin as much as it does his personality. Some people just can't take a joke. They live in every continent, in every country.
2006-11-05 12:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brits just aren't funny. Sorry...pick up some DVDs of Chris Rock, Carlos Mencia, or watch comedy central. You'll get us after that.
2006-11-05 12:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by pullmytriggerthenblamemygun 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know some British girls and I think they are funny as h ell , and the accent is so sexy , it might just be your guy..
2006-11-05 12:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋