My bf and I have been together for almost 1yr. now, I meet his friends early on in our relationship and for his sake I tried to make friends with them. His guyfriends r great and I have no problems. The girl on the other hand I thought I was on good terms with but lately I have noticed thats not the case. In the last year they have come up to me in 4 different instances to tell me my bf was cheating, it would always come back that they had exaggerated the situation , it would cause a huge fight w my bf and I then we would see what they had done and then we would get back together. Today my bf came to me and told me that he was told by his friends that I was flirting with a bunch of guys at the library when I was studying with the girls. Without a lie I was not and the only time I spoke to any1 was to tell this guy to shut up bc he was loud. I really want your advice on how to deal with these girls. I know this is childish but they need to see how much it hurts to be betrayed like this.
2006-11-05 11:26:22 · 5 answers · asked by gti_gal8885 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are right, as much as I dont want to stoop to their level, I feel like they shouldnt get away with playing with out lives. When they do this both of us become so upset. They are ruining a perfectly good relationship with their little games.
And as much as I dont want to hang out with these girls, because I have great friends who are loyal and loving, but as long as I am with my bf then I am with these idiots. The only way I am gonna get rid of them is if my boyfriend and I break up and I am not going to give them that satisfaction because that is what they want.
I just wish they could see how cruel they are being. I have been crying all day bc of how upset my boyfriend was.
2006-11-05 11:40:56 · update #1
Maybe tell them they are being jerks.
2006-11-05 11:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by debralizjr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your bf need to get together and plan together to nip the rumor mill in the ***. I speak from experience and this approach totally works.
You both need to speak up about trusting each other so completely that no matter what any says youll only believe each other. You need to make statements such as these around those no good friends of yours. One more trick that leaves these kind of ppl in awe is if you both come up with stories about having 3sums with other chicks and how much you both have fun checking out other ppl together. I swear this really does work. After about two or three encounters with ppl they will be so baffled and their rumors wont be able to cause any damage they will just give up.
There is just on key to make this work. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES CAN EITHER OF YOU QUESTION EACH OTHER IN FRONT OF OTHERS FOR ANY REASON! WHEN SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING LIKE "HEY DID YOU KNOW I SAW HIM/HER FLIRTING WITH SO AND SO" YOUR COME BACK IS EXTREMEMLY INPORTANT HERE........OH REALLY, WELL I HOPE THIS ONES CUTER THEN THE LAST ONE HE/SHE BROUGHT HOME. LOL
Then when you are both alone speak privately and always talk dont fight if you can help it.
this worked for me in this situation. we now totally enjoy screwing with ppl before they even start on us. Were still together and the last ones laughing. Good luck I hope I have helped.
2006-11-05 19:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by cjpburgess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this is simple. Starting right now you should have absolutely nothing to do with these girls. Avoid them at all costs. Really they are not worth the problems you are encountering.
2006-11-05 19:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a 30-06 and say to them get the **** down or ill shoot the set the gun down and beat them with something the put a restraing order on them
2006-11-05 22:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Tank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the issiue, revenge brings you down to their level. Don't do it. And let them know you won't stoop to their level.
2006-11-05 19:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋