Is it normal for your husband to want to intercourse through anal? What if I am not comfortable with that how do I tell him. I am extremely scared what may happen but he keeps insisting it will be okay! Any thoughts or experiences? Can you get hurt if this is done?
2006-11-05 11:15:58 · 23 answers · asked by NikaLynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It can be very uncomfortable if not done caringly and with patience and lots of lubrication. You cannot just enter like you would the vagina or it will hurt. It must be slowly stretched, foreplay and entering must be done slowly. It is safe enough but a lot of lubrication is a must because the rectum does not make lubrication like the vagina. Also never go from anal to vagina as this will cause infections. Do some research there must be toms of info on the Internet.
2006-11-05 11:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people like anal intercourse, but if you are not comfortable then you need to communicate with him. A lot of marriages fall apart just because the 2 people do not communicate with each other. He can't read your mind, so explain why you are hesitant to do that.
2006-11-05 11:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by rivkadacat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could never tell you an accurate number, but I think it is normal for most males to approach this subject with their woman.
As to telling him your feelings on it, be honest and tell him of your fears. A lot of trust is involved here.
As to your fears of what may happen, well, as long as he is slow and gentle and is paying attention to your body language, there should be no physical harm. It may happen that you might enjoy the experience...or not. Only way to find out is to try.
2006-11-05 11:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rich B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..I think alot of men secretly have experienced it or want to experience it....it's good that he is open enough with you to tell you he wants to try it..My husband wanted to try it too...Which I did try it ..I'm not gonna lie to you..It hurts, But you gotta relax and use alot of lubricant...After awhile it starts feeling pretty good, and sometimes you can have an explosive orgasm during...But you gotta relax, and let him work it in until your comfortable...If I was you..I'd try it with him..He is your husband, the bedroom id undefiable with your spouse..so go for it..and No It won't cause any complications in the future..But everybody has their own opinions about it..If you don't want to do it..then don't, But there is always a firdt time to try anything,,,Good Luck
2006-11-05 11:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It can hurt. If you aren't careful and don't use plenty of lube, or if your man if large, it can actually tear. Just explain to him that you don't want to do it. If he's not okay with that, then that's what is not normal. I used to not like the idea, but one day I just decided to try it. My husband didn't pressure me at all about it. It was my decision. I enjoy it sometimes, but you are entitled to have your own feelings about it. Hope this helps.
2006-11-05 11:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personaly im with you. I do not want to have anal. My b/f really does but he understands and dosent push it. ALL of my girlfriends say that they were the same way at first but once they tried it it was the best sex that they evere had. as long as you use lots and lots of lubercation and he takes it nice and slow i think that youll be just fine. If it hurts to bad then make him stop.
2006-11-05 11:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by christal l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can get hurt! The skin between the vagina and the anus is very thin. If it is torn, the fecal mater can seep into the vagina.
Make sure the penis after any anal play before it enters the vagina!
2006-11-05 15:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by candispassion.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah u can get hurt from that, u can tear the booty tissue if his penis is big.....also I dont know why guys like that anyway....it seems they would rather have the wet & warm cause u never know what may come out of the booty hole if you know what i mean. and that's when he'll want to stick it back in the warm & wet and give u a vaginal disease...just think about
2006-11-05 11:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by dellydell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u dont want to then dont do it and be straight with him.But i got to say that u will be missing out on a great experience. Maybe just try it once if u still dont like it then let him know that on no uncertain terms that u dont want to do it again.
2006-11-05 11:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look if this is not something that you will feel comfortable doing you have to let him know. It's not only his decision. He has to be gentle and caring and understanding because it will be painful the first couple of times. Just talk to him.
2006-11-05 11:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by dd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋