should i demand that he should be terminated?

Question

this guy who is not my boss came at me saying "you should not do anything else but just sit there answer the phone and look pretty". in a condescending tone, not playful at all. i have a sense of humor and if he was just playing with me would know. but when he said that, i was so offended by it that i started bawling. answering phone is part of my job description but that's not the main thing that i do. i do accounts payable and i went to school for it. i took his statement as 'you are nothing more than just a pretty face. you are dumb and stupid.' was i over reacting? is that sexual harrassment? discrimination? stereotyping? if i do demand that he shoud be terminated, what reason? help please. i would feel very uncomfortable seeing him in the workplace. it would be very hard because i will keep thinking he'll do this again. he has yelled at another co-worker before, so this wasn't the first time, he's made it a habit.

the company i work at is fairly new so we don't have an hr. the hr is the owner of the company, we have less than 20 people that works there including the bosses.

leanhaums=i started crying because i was very offended and it reminded me of when my father used to abuse us, yell and beat us up for no reason at all

Answer 1

Hon, as a long time girl of being embarassed and angry for many of the "same reasons", let me tell you how to handle this and a few words of insight on people.

First, you cannot "demand" anything but the bills you need to pay at your office.

The only thing you are in control of is your reaction to this jerk ball. He may have an opinion about you and your job, but that's his opinion and only that. What you needed to do is just look him in the eye smile as if he's complimented you. Yes, if he was your boss, this might be a bigger issue. The thing I've learned about myself and you can learn as well is that no one "makes you cry" You are the only person in charge of when the tears come on. Yes, outside events can trigger an emotional response, but you are ultimately the only one who allows the emotion to errupt. Either way, it does not make it easy to deal with sometimes. If you are totally confident in your ability on the job, then let him say and think what he wants. You know the facts, and remember them no matter what your co-worker says. You are good at your job and you are there for the reason that many people do not have the orginazatoinal skills that it takes to do your job. Maybe you have some underlying feelings that you really are only a pretty face with no skills? At any rate, look into yourself to realize what exactly got your nerves on edge that day. It is something deep inside of you that wells up and then you choose this jerk to "lose it" on. (maybe?) Remember the facts and keep your chin up, he's probably just got some unresolved issues as well. What I might do, is jot down the date and what he said that offended you. Keep a running tab of derogatory and positive both. If you have to set it up like a spreadsheet, do so. If you get a large amount of statements that are negative, then you have a log of it and you've recorded while it's fresh in your mind. IF you end up with a large sheet with dates and statements, then you can start your demands. This is a math problem, like everything in life. Aren't you glad you know math so well. Good Luck.

Answer 2

You should report the matter to your boss. You should also be prepared to comfront him about once the boss takes any actions. In the future, you should be clear at the time of the encounter that you do not appreciate what was said and you take offense. In order for something to be sexual harrassment it has to contribute to a hotile or unpleasant workplace for you, even if it isn't something that directly happened to you (speaking deragatorily about a co-worker in your presence for example). If you make it clear that the behavior is offensive he has an obligation to stop and the company has an obligation to do something if he doesn't.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

No, this is just being petty, Don't cry about it, he isn't your boss. He is just trying to get a reaction out of you, which he did. Tell him to mind his own business. Now if he keeps it up then you can report him. I don't think that was sexual harrassment. He was just being ignorant.

Answer 5

does the company have a seperate Human Resources department? contact them. get the other person he yelled at to call too. yours could be considered sexual harassment ( a note to "crazy"... the person doesnt have to actually be hitting on the other for it to be considered this!). HR will not tell him the name(s) of the person filing the complaint.

Answer 6

I would start by talking to your boss and stating exactly what happened. This definitely sounds like a sexual harrassment issue and should not be taken lightly.

Answer 7

No, don't be so sensitive..
You are always going to find insensitive people at work and you
can't get them all fired...
It is NOT sexual harrassment...
If you try to get him fired and it fails, you may as well start looking
for another job yourself...
You are not the official Political Correctness & Sensitivity police...

Answer 8

you cannot demand the termination of a fellow employee but you can file harassment charges against this person, who is of no class. you are right with this. the person who decides this should find if there is a justifiable reason for this person to act this way or relieve him of his position or job. with more than one subject receiving this treatment, this should be addressed.

Answer 9

To protect yourself, you should immediately report this to both your boss and your company's human resources department. Be specific and do not exaggerate. Do not allow yourself to be dissuaded. If the company does nothing, then file a complaint with state EEOC or similar agency.

Answer 10

I would say its harrassment not sexual harrasment though, its not like he's hitting on you. I believe there are laws/rules against this, and if I were you I'd report him, more than likely he will be terminated. Best of luck!