I'm 20 years old and I am 7 months pregnant with twins! My boyfriend just asked me to marry him! I love him and I have loved him ever since we were fifteen! He promised me when I first figured out I was pregnant that he would love me forever no matter what! I believe him, but I'm not sure about marriage. He promised and he has never broken a promise! I will graduate in 2 years and I know I'll be ready then. I'm going to school to become a pro hair stylist so I'm pretty much ready for the future. Can I trust him or should I wait till I'm out of college with my masters degree and can afford my wedding and my baby?!?! I want my twins (boy and girl) to have a loyal father
2006-11-05 11:09:27 · 11 answers · asked by I W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont get married if your not ready. I got married when i was 20 and already had a baby girl. Now i feel like im stuck in a rut and never got to experience a lot of things. Wait until your 100% sure. It should be the happiest time of your life and not over shaddowed with worry and uncertainty. If he loves you as much as he says he will wait for you. Good Luck xxxx
2006-11-05 11:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...you sound as if you may truly be in love but don't let your marriage be an artificial marriage meaning you only married because you had babies born! If he loves you and truly feels the way he says he does about you, he'll be able to wait those two years and understand why you would ask him to. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and if you need two more years before you can wholeheartedly make that commitment, then so be it. Express your concerns to your boyfriend and hope he understands but al-in-all...do whats gonna be best for you and your children in the long-run!
2006-11-05 19:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by queenV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be good for you to get married because of the kids. Tell him your concerns. If after you tell him your fears about marriage maybe you two can work things out. It would have been nice for you to have married him BEFORE you reached 7 months pregnant. At least he asked you and is still around, so that shows loyalty. This is not about just you another. You are about to have 2 more mouths to feed.
2006-11-05 19:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it seems like you two have an amazing relationship.
My fiance' and I are going to get married in July of this year and at first we were both stoked, and we went through the "cold feet" stage, but we came out together happier than ever... and neither of us can wait.
Marriage is scary, and shouldn't ever be done for a child's sake... but that doesn't sound like your situation at all! Good luck with everything, it seems like things are great...
Get engaged, and set the wedding date for a little while down the road... Things look like they'll turn out to be just fine for you and the family!! Congrats!
2006-11-05 19:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT. If you still love him and want to marry him when you get your degree, then consider it. Marriage does not make men or women more loyal than they were before marrying.
2006-11-05 22:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by SalseraNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very sincere, but go with your gut feeling. If you're unsure, then don't. He if loves you, he will wait for you. This time will help to see how loyal he really is. Congrats on the twins.
2006-11-05 19:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has he done wrong, your are more than little mixed up, seems like a nice guy the way you descibe him. I feel sorry for him because he is in for a hell of a ride, WHEW! You are a lucky girl and don't know what good man you got. I bet their a million who would trade you for him.
2006-11-05 19:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will really hurt him if you decline his offer. How did you answer when he asked you? If you are not ready, suggest a long engagement, saying that you want to save up money for a nice wedding.
2006-11-05 19:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by kitty-mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask you are not ready, And if hes as wonderful as you imply he'll be around anyway for your babies you don't have to get married. Congratulations!
2006-11-05 19:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your ready.
2006-11-05 19:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by dreamsjv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋