Any tips on how to spice up the marriage? Sexually & Intellectually?

Question

I am nearing 15 year together with my man and feel as if at times he may not feel te same as he did before with me. Any tips on how to spice up the marriage. We have pretty much tried everything I can think of sexually but some tips would be helpful. Communication has went down hill with us at times. Sometimes he just does not want to even talk to me at all. There are times when I talk he flat out ignores me and watches tv or carries on with whatever he is doing. I feel like there is a wall between us at times. Other times he is okay and things seem to be just great. Help!

Answer 1

Well, my husband and I have been married for 13 years. We have two daughters. It is tough sometimes, but we have pulled through.

I went to a couple of Passion Parties and purchased some products....It is a blast!! Then I became a consultant.

After that many years, our sex life was in the toilet. I didn't really think I would buy anything, I just wanted to get out of the house! But, I loved the product and they were presented in a very respectful way.

I became a consultant because after I got the product home, we had such a good time. Becoming a consultant not only made our sex life incredible, but the money is fantastic!.....Sex and money~ the top two reasons marriages fail, saving them one bedroom at a time!!!

Men need sex, we need romance, you have work together. Foreplay does not start in the bedroom. It starts as soon as we wake up. Communication is key, we have set aside one day a week for just the two of us. It does not matter what we do, we are together by ourselves.


Good luck!
Candi

Answer 2

Shake him up a little , make him think he lost you , call an old girl friend in another state , book a flight , only don't tell him anything , just be missing for 3 days or a week , buy some extra personal things and pack a bag , leave your keys , phone , tooth brush , I.D.'s , you can go to dmv tell then you lost your license , usually it only cost 5 bucks , you need a new picture anyways , it will put through h-ll but , he will remember what he loves about you , call it shock therapy , O' don't forget tell the police somebody might try to report you missing , they won't tell him anything , good luck.......

Answer 3

Tired of looking for solutions ? Sexually and interlectually ? What about the most important aspect of a happy marriage : SPIRITUALLY / GODLY ? Lady , life has its ups and downs..years in , years out , and marriages may seem monotonous...people may think of the need for changes or maybe things may look sour , no taste ,boring and hopeless...you name it ! Personally , sexual tip : be yourself , honest , provide WHEN HE NEEDS IT ...don't force yourself because when rejected , you would feel he is unfaithful and has your opposition ; intellectual tip : psych up youself and believe in you that you are giving your best and not faking your love to him...you cannot do much but be genuine...faking yourself will result in disappointments , even if he may change and life is sweet again...for on the long run , you will hate yourself for faking , then you will not care any longer and BANG !! Caput ! Back to square one...asking the same question again and maybe contemplating suicide as life may seem not worth the living...sad that would be...Spiritual Tip : Luke 1 : 37 ...FOR WITH GOD , NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE .. how's that ? Looking for worldly solutions are okay , but the spiritual , PEACE it is...Pray that you seek GOD and he shall surely answer you and solve your perplexities....Psalms 34 : 17 ...When the RIGHTEOUS cry ,the LORD HEARS and DELIEVERS them out from ALL THEIR PROBLEMS..God Bless you

Answer 4

Regular after a year of marriage. Wow. Depends on what you like. Try doing random things anything, playing with each other, different positions or settings ex. Living room, bathroom & shower, Garage. Etc. You'll get to know your spouse better this way too. Best Wishes <3

Answer 5

Of course its not the same as 15 years ago, that was 15 years ago. I doubt that there is ANYTHING about either of you that was the same as 15 years ago.

Honestly, the number one reason men tune women out is because they either talk too much or they nag or both. Women don't like to hear that but a facts a fact.

Try talking less to him, make your point and then LEAVE IT ALONE. Also Listen to him and HEAR what he is saying. It is very likely that he is already conveying all of the information he needs you to know. Finally take note of other ways that he is communicating. Men communicate by doing... maintaining the car, the house, providing for their family,etc.

When was the last time you complimented him on something? When was the last time you LEARNED something from him, had a conversation about something he enjoys?

These are things you did when you were dating, are you still doing them?

When was the last time you put on something sexy and told him you NEEDED him?

When was the last time that you let him know, in terms that he understands, that your world is immeasurably better with him in it?

Men need to be needed, let him know that you need him.

Answer 6

Sorry, I know how you must be feeling but it doesn't sound like you need to spice things up get him, to talk about whats going on and if hes really where he wants to be If hes ignoring you there is a bigger problem than intimacy

Answer 7

Have a date night twice a month. One night he gets to pick what you do and one night you get to pick. Make an effort to have fun even on the nights that he picks even if he makes you see a stupid guy movie or takes you to a sports bar ( which actually wouldn't be so bad if you happen to like sports) The point is that this will help you to reconnect and that always makes the sex better.

Answer 8

Tell him how a woman feels really alone when her man doesn't talk to her or ignores her. Tell him how a woman needs her man's touch.

Ask him to go for walks with you and get some fresh air. That usually gets people talking.

Answer 9

Weekend getaways, go out of town, get a hotel room. GO out to dinner, dress up and focus on each other the whole night. try and new sport together. Take up a new hobby.