We have been together that long and now things are changing due to some erational actions. He is gone all the time and lies abot where he had been. When he gets home he will try to make me mad so that way when he goes out i wont care. He swares the he would never cheat on me and i kinds believe him but my gut tells me different. What should I do
2006-11-05 11:01:20 · 14 answers · asked by extc999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I too have been married for 13 years and I too have 3 children and felt very compelled to answer.
First of a womens intution is a gift. In some instances it can be a hero, and in others our worst nightmare. I personally would like to suggest to you that trusting your instincts is a good thing. But on the other hand, 13 years is nothing to sneeze at. Love conquers all and after 13 years Im sure you know what Im talking about. Ups and downs ins and outs, no one says that marriage is easy. But if there is true love involved giving up is not an option. However you need to have a talk with your hubby. You should communicate with him your concerns and go from there. Dont ignore this! By ignoring it your only helping to close of those lines of communication, and with out that being opened everything is at risk. Whatever you do try not to give up.
Good luck
2006-11-05 11:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by cjpburgess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me.. HE IS....When a man starts acting differently and starts treating you differently nine times out of ten he is..I have been through it so many times...you need to trust your instinct's...A woman's intuition never lies...I say you should pay more attention to his every move ...start watching for evidence.. Also be careful, cause there is no telling what type of thing he's messing around with..I'm so sorry for you that you have to go through this, But be strong, and everything will work out...Good Luck
2006-11-05 19:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to TALK!!
13 years is nothing to joke about! It does not mean he is cheating. Maybe he is just out spending time with the guy's.
I have also been married for 13 years, my husband did all of his rebelling in the first 5 years...........let me tell you what!!! lol
Spice things up, not that it is your fault...( I don't mean that by any means!) Sometimes they just need an attitude adjustment!!
Don't sit around and wait for him! Go spend time with your friends! Take the kids, it is okay!
Things will work out. If you want to talk, my e-mail is candispassion@yahoo.com
Sometimes women just need to talk!!
2006-11-05 23:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by candispassion.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your gut feelings. He is cheating for sure. Give him an ultimatum and stick with it. Good luck!
2006-11-05 19:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by salstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts! I know it will be hard, but you wouldn't be the first woman to call it quits. Get a job, if you don't have one, and plan on a future without him.
2006-11-05 19:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a private investigator and some counseling when you find out he is cheating.
2006-11-05 19:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you for a fool. Tell him you're calling a lawyer and he will pay plenty for alimony and child support.
2006-11-05 19:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your intuition. people who pick fights are trying to make it "your fault", it's their way of dealing with their guilt and avoiding the real issue at the same time.
2006-11-05 19:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say. Get a detective to follow him and know for sure or put it to rest.
2006-11-05 19:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by CaTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on.
2006-11-05 19:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋