2006-11-05 10:47:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell her................ Fact is, she probally knows the relationship is over anyway. The simple and direct approach imay be less hurtfull than dragging it out. Kinda like a shot from the doctor.
2006-11-05 10:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mike B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue.
That would be my worst nightmare as a married woman.
Surely there is no easy way to let her down.
But before you do, you should ask yourself a few things. Why do you think you "love" this woman? It is because she satifies you sexually? Does she treat you better that your wife does? Can you talk to her? Do you share common interests? If so aren't these all things your wife could do, or atleast you could work on? Is it worth throwing away however many years of security and commitment? Is counseling out of the option? What has your wife done so wrong, to cause you to abandon her? And Lord forbid if you have children. I can tell you one thing, you will always be able to find "greener grass" away from your wife during times of conflict in the marriage or otherwise times, the real trick is being able to stand by her "for better or worse". There will always be another pair of legs to make you look, another that will woo you, and act like she posseses everything your mate does not. But really in the end, the grass isn't greener on the other side. And what were you doing going behind her back with other woman anyways? You ought to be ashamed!
Ugh, I don't even know what to say to you. All I know is it would break my heart if I ever had to hear the words you are going to say to your wife from my own husband. Where have all the faithful men gone these days? Does no one take the vows of marriage seriously anymore?? Seek couples therapy, that is what I say. Leave the other woman alone. And shame on her for getting involved with a married man!!! I see so many things wrong with this picture!
Good ridance! I'll be praying for that wife of yours!
2006-11-05 18:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It always makes it harder if there is another woman. What was wrong in you marriage that made you cheat. Tell her that is the reason for leaving her, wait a while until you tell her about the other woman. Most people would not agree with me but i've experienced it and it hurts soooooo much when you know they are cheating. My partner told me he was leaving me for other reasons and i found it easier to get through, then i found out about the other woman the next day and it devestated me.
2006-11-05 19:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess, you found another woman you are in lust with....
love is not a feeling. It is a commitment, a behavior and an attitude. (See Better Together by Rick Warren). I've heard it said that i f you think you are in need of a steamy romance, chances are someone at home feels the same way too.
There is def something else wrong with the marriage...deal with that first or you bring the baggage with you...
2006-11-05 18:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. You vowed to love your WIFE til death do ye part, Wow Guess you didn't understand huh. The biggest part to getting married is to spend your life with that special someone. Make sure you tell her in a public place if you have the balls to tell her at all.
2006-11-05 19:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOF! thats a toughie... if she has no clue about your new girl, then do it any way cuz its gonna hurt no matter what, if you think she already knows, or if your marriage isnt or hasnt been stable, then say it respectfully and in a way that is meant to inform, not hurt, that way you can both rationally figure out what to do next...geez good luck (unless you cheated, then your just a loser that deserves to be alone)
2006-11-05 19:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by thatgirluknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell her that jerk! You made a commitment and you need to honor that and forget about this other woman. Marriages aren't suppose to be disposable. The grass is greener where you take care of it; not on the other side. Shame on you!!!!!
2006-11-06 00:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay what makes you think you will not fall out of love with the other woman, when you get bored , I think you need to find out if it is love not lust. I am sure you think that you are in love, but just remenber one thing Can you trust some one that will cheat with you , they might just cheat on you.
2006-11-05 19:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that it is not just a passing infactuation?
Have you fallen out of love with your wife?
To tell her you just sit down with her, face to face and say it like it is. Be honest and gentle.
2006-11-05 18:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, is your wife an alien or does she have a tail or what? You're a certifed failure as a husband. The least you can do is be a good human to her. And hey, "Do unto others as you would unto yourself".
2006-11-06 00:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Allen K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋