I am a divorced mother of 2 daughters I just got remarried-?

Question

my question is do I hyphenate their last name (which I used up until I remarried) with my new last name or just take my new husband's last name. My youngest daughter is having a hard time with me not having the same last name that hey have.

I think that I need to clafify my question. I do not want to make any changes to my childrens name. It is how I use my new married name and my exhusbands name in my title. The only reason I am even considering this is so my children still have that connection.

Answer 1

I just got married less than a year ago, I changed my name to the new husbands. There was a new Mrs. Schmidt (the old name- he remarried first) for about six months and THAT caused problems at the school, the stepmother would say she was Mrs Schmidt and they would assume it was the mom. It is a very personal decision, which does need to be discussed with the kids, but your decision is the ultimate. They will adjust either way. And how do you explain to the new husband you are keeping the name of the ex? If you had gone back to your maiden maybe it could be explained, but keeping the ex's could hurt the new one's feelings. (Just my personal opinion)
Good Luck and congratulations.

Answer 2

I have been married twice. I have never changed my name or my kids name..I have three. One by the first husband and two by the second.

I simply explain to them..that this is the name you were born with. I would never dream of changing theirs or mind. I still have my madien name.

There is no reason in life to change last names and I do not understand why people do it.

You were born in this life with a name..Be proud of it.

Answer 3

my parents are divorced and when my mom got re-maried i didnt want her to change her last name either but she just kept telling me that i was still gonna be the same person grant it i was six years old and didnt understand what was going on really. but the main thing is that i think if your daughter is yournger she might not understand it and maby if you have a talk about it with her she migh understand.

Answer 4

you want to stay in contact such as your toddlers and teach an interest of their concerns. you also want to stay out of the arguments that ensue in all households each and every so typically. ok be there on your to toddlers whinge to . Make the right noises, provide them recommend on a thanks to handle it interior the nuclear relations, then stay out of it. Dont communicate adverse to their mom or her boyfriend to the toddlers - this would all reverberate on you. save your eye on the problem on the young children abode and in case you imagine the toddlers are being bodily or emotionally abused, guarantee that the toddlers and your ex spouse comprehend there is an option abode waiting for the toddlers might want to the want upward push up. Dont say this to the boyfriend or to any of the others in a heated and stressful time. it really is going to be suggested gently and count number of factly even as each and every thing is high quality.

Answer 5

I had a problem with my girls last name when I got remarried,my problem was with their school teachers.I was always having to show them that I was their mother and not their step-mother.Good luck

Answer 6

You'd better check with the ex before you change their names.

Answer 7

You could hyphenate it - if that makes everyone feel better. Its really up to you.

Answer 8

to be able to take your new husband's name he would have to legally adopt them. leave their name the same as their father's.

Answer 9

ofcourse no,they should have their real father's name for god's sake