My Girlfriend and I fight about cleaning....HELP!?

Question

I am more laid back when it comes to cleaning and she can't even think if something isn't in the right place or it's not clean...any suggestion for ways we could compromise?

Answer 1

i can relate. i am soooo laid back and my spouse is anal about cleaning. i offered to hire someone to clean three days a week and i'd pay for it. it worked for us.

Answer 2

Oh dear...I hear shades of my early marriage in this one..*grin*. My Partner and I were the same way. I was (and am) very laid-back in cleaning. If the flat surfaces are full, don't move it or I'll never find it again. She came from a minimalistic mom who was a frentic cleaner. The first few years were interesting. We finally agreed to sit down and list out what was most important, what was sort of and so forth. We then split up that list and each took half of what chores were top on the list and promised to do them. we did the same for the next level and left the page of "sort of but not really's" to when we had a spare moment or really cared to do it. We've been married 26 years now and she's been out on the road as a OTR truck driver for 11. I've been a at-home housewife for 6 now due to medical problems, so I've taken over most of the chores (I hate cleaning the bathroom and never do it to her standards so she does that). Otherwise things are good. Just compromise a little. You pick up after yourself (Yes, I know the floor by your chair has got a project, a book and a pop bottle piled there) and she can try not to be quite as picky (or vocal) Just love each other and Good Luck. Blessings to both of you.

Answer 3

Well Im the same way I love being laid back but if somethings dirty or the atmosphere doesnt feel right I'm gonna clean it. Its just how I am but I dont think you two fight. I think you should say that you'll clean anything you messed up and you should tell her that you will clean anything you made a mess of but if you dont like her cleaning so much you should tell her. My ex and I had fights over things like that as well

Answer 4

Take the guy view if she wants it clean she will clean it. She will either give in or go insane. Don't be a slob or she will take you with her if your clean don't worry about her mess. So kidding aside there are 4 choices to this problem.
1.) She relaxes and accepts that a lived in house is ok
2.) You become a neat freak and as a team you have Lysol party's
3.) You meet in the middle
4.) Break up

In a situation like this outside advise is horrible you know what your choices are and you also know what you are going to do before you ask. You are venting

Answer 5

Find a happy medium... help her clean up a little everyday after work and tell her to chill if there's a wrinkle in the rug.

She has to calm down a little bit because not everyone is a cleaning maniac. She has to understand that or tell her to not be so upset at you for not being as tidey.

Maybe you can be a little bit cleaner but a slong as your not leaving your food from last night on the table I don't see why she would be getting so upset.

Answer 6

Well if you don't really care about cleaning and she does one day when she is gone and you are home alone clean the whole house then she wont have to clean she will be happy with you and she will think you are more responsible.

Answer 7

Yes, dont be laid back and clean!
But if she is so much into detail, tell her to be a bit more understanding and that not everyone is an order maniac.

Answer 8

Get up off your lazy @ss and help. Or pay for someone to do it. She shouldn't be having to clean up after you. She may have a little OCD going on. But if you care about her you would do something to help.