How do you turn a crpy life of boredom and frustration into the fluffy bunny life other people seem to live?

Question

Basically I have a dead end job, the mates I do have are ether married, getting married, or moving away, I have no woman in me life and don't seem to be able to get a one..lol, I have a bad back, a brain that refuses to shift gear and now a bloomin hernia! that stops me from doing most of the things I enjoy doing, like going out with the lads for a drink or training down the gym....Now I suppose I could commit suicide....but I wouldn't want to give the git whose deciding to make my life hell the satisfaction!.....I have thought about going up a mountain to ponder the meaning of life and maybe discover myself along the way...but as one of my other problems is I'm a lazy git that finds it hard to motivate himself, that's not really likely to happen!:-)...So instead I thought I'd just share this on the Internet and maybe give someone in the same or worse situation a little chuckle or two, maybe if you've managed to turn your life around you could let the rest of us know how you did it?

Answer 1

You don't sound too depressed to me, it sounds like you have a good sense of humor and a good sence of irony.
There must be something that you enjoy in life that you can get involved in?
It sounds like you like fitness, maybe you could coach a children's team?
Just find things you enjoy doing, and while you are doing them you will most likely meet people who like doing those same things and you will make new friends and maybe even a new girlfriend? Then you'll be the one getting married and moving away!
:-) x

Answer 2

Yep, totally get where you're coming from. Spent the last 2 years dealing with a whole lot of yuck in my life.

My purse was stolen, buggers smashed my car window to get at it. Had to get the car repaired and all my id replaced.

Had a negative pap, and spent the next year living with the idea that it could be cancer while the docs tested me.

Found out my condo (the building only being 13 years old, and me only being here 4 years) was not structurally sound, and that I'd be assessed over $21000 for repairs.

My job was terminated.

I could give you all kinds of pat answers but going through the crappy parts of life are not easy. As you can see by the other responses to your question, we all experience crap, it's a part of life.
All you can do is make an effort to find what is going to bring you some kind of happiness. Yeah, you have a choice. You can continue to be lazy and wait around for something or someone else to change your life for the better, unfortunately it rarely (if ever) happens like that. So either learn to enjoy where you're at, or as the ad says, "Just Do It!"
And, forget about where your mates are at. Figure out what will make you happy before you think living their life is gonna bring you happiness. Happiness is never the same for everyone.
So, let the trials strengthen you, cause I can tell you right now, this is not the last of them.
Just remember, "this to shall pass". Simple but straight up.

Answer 3

You have loads going for you - for a start you can write a paragraph about how bad your life is that makes people laugh! Get a blogspot for a start and write in it every day. Tell people about it and let others share in your sense of humour.

As far as turning things around you already have all you need to do that - it's just a matter of sorting it all out in your head. You need to know 1- what is important to you in your life. 2- where you want to be in 3 years time if everything turns out well and 3 - what you are doing now to move yourself forward. This helps you to make a goal and a plan.

Ask yourself : If there was no risk involved - what would you do to start moving yourself towards that goal?

Keep on pondering on the meaning of life but DO get a blog so we can laugh with you along the way.

Best wishes to you

Answer 4

OK, first of all...I don't have a job, other than of course housework, clearing up endless mess left by everyone else, cooking, shouting and wiping the snot trails left on my newly clean black jumper by my adorable toddler!! Secondly, I have no man in my life...he left me! lol. Thirdly, I don't have a brain or a hernia, but do have PMT and a tendancy to make a fool of myself regularly! (not quite the same, but oh, wouldn't want to make you laugh....hernia and all!!) I too would like to go out with the lads (guys) but don't know any, but have been out recently strutting my funky self with girls, resulting only in VERY sore feet and a major hangover that took two days to start, such had been the extent of the binge drinking! We all think of suicide, but heh, like you say that would be giving in, and I don't know about you, but i'm far too stubborn for that! Now be careful which mountain you go up, some of them are very high....I was going to try this pondering thing, but have a problem with heights! and with all your problems you may just fall off the top, or get frost bite on the way up and be imortalised forever as an ice sculpture, thus resulting in never being able to discover the true meaning of life and all it's glory!!!!! Well,sorry I can't answer your question, only assure you that we all have sh** lives in some way or other, and we all just have to try and seek out the good bits, like the family and friends we do have, the laughs people give us and believe that every cloud has a silver lining.....you may yet get to meet the woman of your dreams dressed in a hot nurses uniform whilst you're having your hernia seen to!!!!!!!!!! lol. thanks for the 'chuckle' and good luck. x

Answer 5

I envy you. You have a wonderful sense of humor and seem to have much to offer to this world by just being yourself.

My envy though stems from your description of a normal life . . I would trade places in a second. I so want a simple, boring life. You see my son was diagnosed 19 months ago with a rare stage IV abdominal cancer. We try to live each day as it comes and not worry too much about the future. But, I long for normalcy. I long for the days when I am no longer scared. I've come to despise clocks, futures, and time . . I look at a calendar and cringe, because I know the statistic . . the average time . . and the ticking sounds so loud. I try to push even those thoughts from my mind, and focus on being positive and hopeful. But no one knows . . .

Please, enjoy each day that you have. It does not need to be a fantastic day, but at least it is normal and you are not sitting in a room filled with doctors. You are not sitting in fear that one day the doctors will say that there is no more that they can do for someone you love.

I long for the simple and boring life I once had.

You have more than you know. You have precious time.

Answer 6

First, I enjoyed the hell out of your post. Undoubtedly you are from England or Ireland, or somewhere in that part of the world.
I'm an American. I know.........whoopie!! But, I only mention that because our president Lincoln was quite a philosopher in his own right. When he was asked the same question you are asking, he said, "Well, I believe that you are about as happy or as miserable as you make yourself."

Personally, I play a banjo and have made it a personal goal to be the best I can be at that, I also am learning to write fiction. I'm 66 years old. There is so much to learn that it keeps my mind so busy I don't have time to worry about being depressed. I guess that you said it yourself when you said you are too lazy to motivate yourself. If you can't do that simple thing............who the hell cares about you? I don't.

Answer 7

Well at least it seems you have not lost your sense of humor :)
Geesh...sorry you are having a rough time right now....
I would really just focus on what you really love to do beyond the normal everyday crap....only you know what that is....maybe making stuff? writing? reading? I don't know....you MUST have some sort of goal...and if I were you I would do whatever I could to at least work towards that :) Even the goal of finding a girl so you have someone to talk to go out with and share stuff with.
But definitly don't give up....if you look around I am sure you can find things that you do still like about life etc....take care

Answer 8

Maybe you should try changing your job and meeting new people,and find a hobby that you'll enjoy preferably one that involves mixing with others.No woman wants to be lumbered with a lazy unmotivated guy so its up to yourself to change or stay stuck the way you are.Take a look at some badly disabled people and you will find them smiling and uncomplaining and make you glad you only have a bad back and hernia.

Answer 9

I have to say I feel pretty much the same, I'm a single parent and my days seem to be - go to work, finish work, pick up kids, go home, sort out the dinner, the house and the kids, go to bed! Then the cycle starts again lol!

I have no one special in my life and dont think I'll find one, dont seem to have much time and if I did I dont think I'd remember what to do with him lol - its been two years!!

However life is infinitely better than it was when I was with the ex so I guess I have something to be grateful for!

Answer 10

Its the same problem we all have. Rubbish jobs, rubbish selfish friends etc. The people you see are either living it up on credit or are among the 1% who are well off. Unfortunately the great capitalist democratic dream is just that - a dream. It has done nothing for anyone except make us want what was promised. You can solve your problem in one hit if you stop watching TV. There lies both the dream and the problem.