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I'm 16 and i sleep with my boyfriend (bf) 4 the first time and got pregant i am SO scard. My bf is 18 and is about to go to colledge I have no idea how I'm going to tell him and my mom and dad with out them getting mad at me. How sould i tell him

2006-11-05 10:15:54 · 22 answers · asked by Jamie d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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I understand your dilemma. But you know what? your boyfriend is a big boy and he understood what he was getting into when he slept with you. I mean if he cannot be man enough to take care of his responsibilities then you do not need him in your life. But the worst thing you can do is try to hide this from your parents. They love you and what has happened, has already happened. They will accept that. Discuss your options with them. They will be more understanding then you think. But tell them about it. If you want to keep the baby then tell them. If you want to give it up then tell them. They will find a way to understand. They will be upset at first but they will eventually get through it. They love you and there is nothing they would not do for you OK.

2006-11-05 10:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0 0

You just have to bite the bullet and tell your boyfriend, and then tell your Mom and Dad. Chances are the boyfriend will go off to college and you'll be left to raise the baby alone, that's what happens the majority of the time. I hope you have some supportive parents. You've just learned a life's lesson, too bad you had to learn it in such a difficult way. Consider putting the baby up for adoption, I was adopted, there are lots of parents out there who can't have babies and would love more than anything to become parents. It seems kind of unfair that irresponsible teenagers can get pregnant so easily but loving, responsible adults are sometimes robbed of any opportunity to have children. I'm sorry for being so harsh, it is just upsetting to me, especially as the mother of a young daughter, that there are so many young people on this site that are wondering what to do about their unplanned pregnancies. I truly wish you good luck and hope that you can go on to have a good life and that this guy does the right thing by you.

2006-11-05 10:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0 0

Don't think of how to tell him. Just tell him. Don't take his reaction seriously as well. He'll not be expecting the news so expect him to be angry or upset. When the news sink in, he'll probably be more what you wanted. This is a time where you need a cool head and be understanding. You have already gone through the shock process. He hasn't so let him. Then don't make any decisions straight away. If HE does, don't take it for real until you know for sure that it's for real.

But tell your mam NOW and you'll be surprised how supportive and understanding she'll be. She's been there and has the T-shirt and she knows how important that ANYONE pregnant needs love and support. Act now for your own piece of mind.

Good luck
Richard.

2006-11-05 10:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by gulliblepeople 2 · 0 0

Well- to late now huh? When people ask how they know they are ready to have sex- I always say "If you can tell your parents your pregnant- without being scared of the reaction- your ready".
Unfortunately, this is what happens.
Your about to make your first steps into REAL adulthood-(one way or another)- so take a deep breath and go talk to your parents. They will be FURIOUS as first- but in a few days things will calm down and then you will have to have some people help you make some choices.
Do not allow your parents to make any choices for you until they calm down OK....

Some good news .... got married at 16. I divorced at 22 and am happily remarried now. I never regret the choices I made. It's difficult- but it can be done. If you want to work hard enough.

Good luck

2006-11-05 10:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 2 1

You have to tell him. And you have to decide what to do next. It may be better to tell your parents without him being there. Your parents are going to be mad. And disappointed. But they'll get over it so don't let it stress you out.

You have three options, abortion, adoption, and raising the baby yourself, possibly with your bf. You need to decide what is best for the baby and what you can handle. Research on the internet. Don't think you have to stay with your bf no matter what......you'll learn alot about him seeing how he reacts to this news. Does he take his share of the responsibility or blame you? Is he supportive in whatever decision you make.

I have nothing but admiration for girls who give up their babies for adoption. It's not easy, but there are so many couples out there waiting for babies. And adoption agencies check these people out beforehand so you know your baby will be in a safe loving family.

You've learned a tough lesson. Which ever path you chose will be hard. But they always say that God doesn't give you more than you can handle.

Just remember, this has happened to women forever. No matter how bad it seems, you'll get through it.

2006-11-05 10:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by honey 4 · 0 0

The best thing to do is sit your boyfriend down and tell him then when he figures out if he wants to be involved or not you go to which ever parent you are closest to and who will react the least mad and tell them you are pregnant.

It is verh ard and scary to tell your parents you are pregnant, beleive me I know because I got pregnant when I was 16 and I told my mom with my best friend by my side and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Your parents will be angry at first but they will get over it.

You really need to tell one of your parents so you can see a doctor and make sure you and the baby are okay. It is criticle that you see a doctor every couple weeks when you are pregnant to make sure nothing is wrong with you or the baby.

You should check out justmommies.com and go to the teen pregnancy and teen mommies forums, the girls thier are really supportive and a lot of help. I started going on that site when I got pregnant 2 years ago and the people thier have been great.

2006-11-05 10:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0 0

Let's see you're 16 and pregnant, and you have to find a way to tell the soon to be off to college 18 year old bf and your parents. You got a doozie on your hands because you and your bf should have been using protection because you're too young to raise a kid when you're practically a kid yourself. If you tell your parents depending on how they react you have to be prepared for them to set out your options, but most teens who get pregnant a lot of them end up on their own because their parents are not going to saddle themselves with their children's poor choices and decisions and make them face the consequences head on. You have a choice either you go through and have the baby and keep it and raise it yourself or you put it up for adoption and allow a couple who are financially and emotionally ready for children to give it a loving home and raise it right or you can get an abortion. Either way you have to tell your parents you have no choice on that one because you're still relying on them financially until you're 18 and if your boyfriend is a man he will own up to his responsibility and sit down and plan what you need to do, but whatever you do you have to live with the choice you make and USE condoms each and every time you have sex and stop having unprotected sex. When you want to make adult choices you are setting yourself up for adult level consequences. You only have one time to be a kid why mess that up with a baby before you're old enough to get your place and a steady job along with a college education. Please use what's in your head and not what's between your legs. I knew too many people who got pregnant and regretted it because they werent ready to be parents and you have a chance to be a kid stop with the sexual activity and focus on other things than having sex. You got your life ahead of you to do all that and have a family and this time it will be with someone you're married to.

2006-11-05 10:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0 0

Sweetie i dont know what to tell you except just tell them. Tell your parents because no matter how disappointed they may be, they will still love you and I'm positive they want whats best for you.There is no great way of breaking news like that. I'm 30 and i dont have children yet and i would still be nervous about telling my parents lol.

I would not have an abortion though. You can still finish high school and you can still go to college. Dont let anyone tell you any different. Nothing can hold you back except you.

2006-11-05 11:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by Geek Girl 5 · 0 0

ok i know exactly what u r going through!! i am 18 years old and i am 5 months pregnant i was 17 when it happened. well u never know how someone is going to react. i told the father of my child first he wanted to get rid of it just b/c he thought we were too young and he thought his family would get mad and he knew my family was going to kill him. but that was not an option!! no not get an abortin seriuosly. if u think u r old enough to have sex then then u r basically saying u r old enough to take care of a child. so just stay calm. i dont really know how the father of ur chld is or ur family. for me the father was a partier and still is (i hate it) adn my father is a really big realigious person who is against sex before marrage. i thought my boyfriend was going to leave me and my dad was going to disown me but instead the opposite happened. just tell everyone when u r ready. but dont stress urself out. it is not good for the baby. i wish u the best of luck and if u need someone to talk to u can talk to me cuz i know exactly what u r going through!!

2006-11-05 10:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bree 2 · 0 0

Just sit down and tell them . if you have told a friend about this have them there for moral support. Everyone will find out sooner or later. Your parents will probably accept a grandchild they always do. Explain to your parents that you understand what happened to you and tell them that you need their support now more than ever, because you will need their help . Especially mom, askk her what you will experience throughout this pregnancy and afterwards. Good Luck

2006-11-05 10:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Heather M 3 · 0 0

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