I have been in many abusive relationships that are the skeletons in my closet I have let that go, but it is interfering with my joy. I want to let go and move up in our relationship but my fears over take me. What can a person do in a situation like this?
2006-11-05 10:08:33 · 6 answers · asked by Missy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just live the most out of it... no one knows what's gonna happen in the future.. better to be at your best than worrying too much about the worse thing could happen.. at least you'll have those good memories that you could cherish for the rest of your life and wouldn't regret the days you tried to step back only because you're worried... and if things doesn't work out there will be no way to blame yourself for what happen because you did your best shot.. hope it helps
2006-11-05 10:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by francesca712 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting some counseling would help. You will definitely need to let go of the fears, because that will hinder the relationship your in now. Take a leap of faith & just let go of those past fears. Being affraid isn't going to help them go away, in fact it might bring them back in full force & cause you to lose control. You can't expect the one you're with to be a twin of the one you've left. Ask yourself this: is this person abusing me in any way? If not then you shouldn't worry. As for the relationship not working out or it going bad.. sometimes you have to go through a few relationships before you find one that fits. Just don't let your mind drag those skeletons back out of the closet. Those are gone, that was before... today is a new day & that's how you should start every day. You can't change the past, you can only live today & look forward to tomorrow. Allowing fears to steal your joy, means you're not living your life to the fullest every single day, & we only get one chance at life. So make the most of it.
2006-11-05 11:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i know exactly how u feel. i have been in many sbusive relationships as well and it is hard to just forget about it cuz u feel like every guy is the same way. well they r not. just tell the person u r with about the past and let them know u r a little afraid b/c of it. but u should not let ur past skeletons haunt u or ur future relatinships will never work out b.c u will always be wondering if they r the same way.
2006-11-05 10:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying about it is WASTING precious time for memories to develop.
He will start worrying about you thinking something OTHER then what you are worrying about and I MEAN THIS, He will get suspecious...
Why do you want to put your relationship in that sort of danger?
Next time you feel that way, walk up to him and tell him :YOU NEED A HUG RIGHT NOW....Don't ask questions until you are done with that hug.
Tell him you love how this feels and how his arms make you feel secure.
Then, open up to him that you have this fear of being alone because he may not be there anymore for you....when he asks why, what have you done....tell him honestly....YOU ARE AFRAID TO GIVE HIM YOUR HEART....and you want to...
then see how he reacts...I bet he says to you..
I will not leave and if YOU DO, I will follow you.!!!!
2006-11-05 10:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by e_guanajuato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Jesus into your life and keep Him at the center of your relationship. Keep Him FIRST in your life and you will receive His peace that is beyond all comprehension. Trust in God and He will never leave you nor forsake you. Now that I have placed God first in my life there is NOTHING on this earth that I cannot handle. Things may get tough every now and then but knowing that God is in control of my life I have absolutely NOTHING to fear!!! The peace God gives me is PRICELESS!!! I will pray for you and your family. God Bless You.
2006-11-05 10:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dori 33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get therapy so you trust your choices in partner and don't pick abusers again. Maybe this one isn't so different and you know it. Is he?
2006-11-05 10:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋