My cousin is 13 and pregnant! Should she put it up for adoption or do abortion?

Question

She wants 2 know and she doesn't have a yahoo acct.

Answer 1

Def. Adoption. Your friend is only 13 and has her whole life to have babies but with abortion their is a high possibility of it screwing up her insides and making it hard for her to get pregnant or making it so she can never conceive again.

She does not know what can happen in the future, my cousins ex fiance had an abortion and about a year later she was in a horrible axcident and she started hemoriging really bad and some other stuff and because of all this she can no longer have kids, she regrets the abortion everyday now.

Abortion is never right and trust me if she were to have one and it were to get out at her school people will be dissing her like thier is no tommorow and calling her names left and right.

Your cousin can do open adoption which allows her to stay in contact with the family who adopted her baby and she receives monthly letters and pictures of the baby and can see the baby when she wants. Doing ti this way she knows her child is being taken care of and can be in its life.

Answer 2

Ultimately it's her choice, but here are some facts she should know before making that choice:

1) There are many, many, MANY families looking to adopt children, especially little babies. They would love to adopt her baby.

2) Abortion kills a life that has already begun. Though many people might argue that's not true, it is.
(Here's why)
The baby's heart starts beating at just 18 days after conception, by just 8 weeks (2 months) everything is present that is in a fully formed adult.

Also, there are only 4 differences between an unborn baby and a baby after birth. They are size, level of development, environment, and degree of dependency. Here's a quick overview of them.
Size doesn't matter because an adult is bigger than a child, just like a toddler is bigger than before birth.
Level of development - you are developing all your life, starting before birth and never ending.
Environment - only a few inches separate a child from birth. You don't suddenly become human if you walk out of a room, just like you don't suddnly become a person when you are born. You were already a person.
Degree of dependency - sure a baby can't survive on its own before they are born, but neither could 1 year old or even an 8 year old.

~~~So, all that to say, abortion is not a good idea.~~~

Answer 3

I think that your cousin, the father, and both of their parents should discuss this,but if I were your cousin go with adoption over abortion. Abortion hurts the mother more than adoption does, meaning having the baby is less painful than having an abortion. You never know your cousin may want to keep it, not all adoptions are gone through with because of attachment.

Answer 4

Adoption is the answer i would go for because i dont necessarily agree with abortion, but listen, 13 is a very young age to carry a baby and have the emotional trauma of going through giving your baby up. She needs to talk to her parents. If she does choose to have an abortion, get one as early as she can. It is her choice, a grown up choice she will have to make and she needs to be reassured that whatever her decision she will not be judged in any way. Every woman has a right to make the choice that is right for her. Make sure she has conselling after whatever decision she makes as this will help her in the long term. Hope this helps. You sound like a nice friend and cousin to have. Alexa x

Answer 5

she should do whats best for her and what she can live with happily for the rest of her life. if she can feel comfortable with an abortion it might be a good option. however if it will bother her forever maybe she should think about adoption...but some people find it really hard to actually give a baby they bonded with away. she should get some counseling and then learn about birth control.

Answer 6

As long as she is healthy she could put the baby up for adoption. There are so many people that are on waiting lists for years because women use abortion as a form of birth control instead of allowing someone else the chance to become a parent.

Answer 7

oh God. I can't know i wondered do you live in Oklahoma? I can't say have the baby and let the grandmother raise the child. Maybe the Grandma don't want to raise anymore children. Why should the grandma have to do 18 years raising her daughters child. Maybe some mothers love that, but to me it's a prison sentence. I already raised my kid's if the 13 year old got pregnant and she has the child she should raise the child.
So bottom line in my opinion, I say have the child, see if the grandmother wants that responsibility, If not put the child up for adoption. Why pregnant a 13? Who the **** is tending the shop around there?

Answer 8

i am 18 and pregnant and abortion was never an option i mean its up to the mother and father but it is not the childs fault that u made him/her so i would go for adoption. plus there r lots of people out there who would be more than willing to adopt her child b/c they cant have ne of their own so i would say adoption but its her choice.

Answer 9

To be honest its something she can only truly know what to do with. How far along is she? You have to remember that before 24 weeks it ISNT a human being, its just a foetus, like an egg, which we eat! is isnt amoral to have an abortion early in the pregnancy, obviously the longer the pregnancy continues the harder it is to abort, so the descision needs to be made quickly.

Personally at such a young age, i would recommend abortion, but thats just me, she needs to talk to an adult, if not her parents then an aunt, older sibling, cousin or health care professional, it really depends on her ideas and values on life, and what shes ultimately going to find easier to deal with.

Personally i couldnt give up my full grown baby, but a foetus isnt even a child yet, she really needs to think this one through, obviously the situation is in no way ideal.

Goodluck

Answer 10

I am completely against abortion for any reason. Especially if it is a teenager your cousins age, who shouldn't have been having sex anyways. She needs to be responsible for her actions. It is not that babies fault that her mom wasn't using her head. There are married, grown, couples all over the US that would give this baby a home. Some would be willing to do an open adoption where she would still be allowed contact with the baby.

I think that would be best for everyone.