how do you get on with your life ?

Question

how do you get on with your life when your husband tells you he doesnt love you any more and you still love him and he moves out

Answer 1

you thank your lucky stars that he had the guts to tell you how he feels so that you weren't locked in a one-sided relationship for longer. it hurts like hell and your confidence takes such a battering but it's better than being lied to.

Answer 2

It is very hard. I have been there after 30 years of marriage he left for another women. I was a mess for about 3 months. I had a job stayed off 1 month then went back. The girls at work helped me a lot. Talked me thur a lot of his ugly phone calls. He was cruel. I asked anybody that went thur it how long before I feel normal again. NO one could tell me. I has been 2 years now and I only miss him every now and then. I have a teenage son so I don't date yet. His life was screwed up also. But I do plan on getting back in there. Go to a support group at a local church, it will help. Everyone there was going thur what I was. Time passed and I have made it. You will too. (Hugs help also) Hugs to you.

Answer 3

Right. I am only going to remind you of what you already know. This is all about you. The focus of this is totally on you. It is what YOU do from here on that is what counts. Right now, do not try to think about it too much because that will only upset you further. After a couple of days, begin a strategy which includes getting the things you need into the house so you will have the necessities, and then get on the phone and reach out to your friends and invite one or two of them over to be with you so you can have a little bit of moral support while you sort this all out. If you have one good friend to help you, it will mean the world to call on this person right now. You could make a phone call this evening if it is not too late. Just chatting by phone will help you immensely. You can only do so much at a time, so when you have done all you can for the time being, put everything aside and try to rest. The most important thing in the world right now is that YOU keep taking really good care of YOU. Caring for yourself - self-care - is job one. Remember to eat. Do not sit up too late or it will make you crabby and impatient the next day. The idea is, because you are under stress, to make all the best choices and decisions that you can, one by one, as you move through your day. I know how hard this is for you. Your emotions will fight you every inch of the way, but you must put them off to one side right now and provide for your own needs to help fill in the big empty space that now faces you. This does not have to be God awful. If you lean into it and begin to provide for your own needs, you can build a bridge to a better way to live. I half suspect he may call you on the phone. Why? Because of how abrupt the whole thing was. This is why you must get your rest - you want to be ready for surprises or ambushes you are not expecting. You are somewhat emotionally vulnerable right now, so the presence of another woman friend would be just invaluable to you. If you have such a female confidante, by all means summon her to the scene and let her help you cope with all of this. I hope this helps you center yourself and begin to pick up the pieces of your life and remember what an essentially good person you truly are inside. Sent with loving energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)

Answer 4

I know what your going Thru. I just kicked my wife out of the apartment, because I found a Halloween card that another man had told her that he couldn't wait to sleep with her again. I'm pissed. If I was you, I would try and get out before he can hurt you any more. I hate to say it, but there might be someone else. There are all kinds of better people out there. I just kicked her out to day after a 8 1/2 year marriage. I know how you feel. I told her one night the I stilled loved her and she just gave me a funny look. If you would ever like to talk about it e-mail me at [e-mail] and maybe I can help some. It's one of the hardest things you will have to go Thru. Did you have any kids with this person? I have one, but not from this relationship. If you have kids, It's probably going to be a lot harder.

Answer 5

I could imagine that this is hard for you. But it takes time. A person that you trusted and love has falling out of love with you. Just pray for yourself to have strength to move on. Again this will take time. Once you pray, find something that you love doing or wanted to do in the past and pursue that. Make yourself useful. Do not look backwards. Look forward to a brand new life and a better future. Keep yourself looking good(even though you may not feel like it), and try to gain confidence in yourself. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Dang that's harsh.... Well the only thing I can say because i am 16 and I don't really have any realtionships like that is you have to move on you have no choice... It's not going to happen over night it's going to take some time for you to heal... Get rid of all his stuff and pictures out of your sight and get out of the house sometimes get some fresh air go out with some friends... find a "special one" you can talk to and you just try to keep him out of your mind. I had a boyfriend from the time I was 10 to the time I was 15 and he moved and said he didn't love me anymore after a month he was gone... That was hard for me. You can do it pray that god removes the pain from your heart but it's going to take some time

Answer 7

I was engaged a few years back, I loved him more than anything in this world, it hit me by surprise that he up and said "I don't think I love you anymore". We met at work he was my boss, he said I needed to quit work before anyone found out. He talked me into selling my house when i moved in with him, he said all i had to do was take care of him and the house {we had no children}. After I did this he decided he didn't love me. I had know were to go, he had alienated me from my friends by now. No job! I had nothing!!! I would hope and pray that I wouldn't wake up in the morning... There wasn't taking one day at a time, it was taking one day and one breath at i time...I really, to this day don't know how i made it. But here I am, married to a man who loves me more than i ever thought a person could, if i had a choice now to go back to that man i proclaimed to love so much or keep what i have, no question i would stay with the real love of my life. We have been together for 10 years now. chin up!! this to shell pass.... I have learned that WE really are stronger than we think we are...

Answer 8

it takes time my husband walked out 3 months ago after he smashed the house up and found out our two year old has autism we had only been married 9 months he told me on the 1st of october which is our first wedding ann that he had just slept with another women that day believe me the first few weeks all you do is cry and cry and you think you cant carry on but if like me you have a kid or kids you have to for them i went to the docs and they gave me some happy pills and they have worked a treat im not saying they do for everyone but i had and still have a hell of a lot of stress as i said its now been three months and im at stage two done with crying now anger has set in trust me you will get through this im not going to say its easy to stop loving someone because its not i still love my husband at the end of the day just give yourself time and what ever you do dont blame yourself

take care

Answer 9

I was in a similar situation, he preferred booze to me, but with 2 children, still had to work, go to school events, and give them a fairly normal childhood. When I was in public, no-one saw the bruising and the mental torture I was going through. But took each day at a time. This was years ago before there was all this highlighting of domestic violence. I am now a widow, 5 years ago today, I have met someone through Friends Reunited, He is Kind, Generous and above All Accepts I have certain hang ups still, but he has been a tower of strength for me. It has not been easy but believe me, you will overcome this put down.

Answer 10

it is difficult, pretty much what happened with my wife, about 3 1/2 months ago. I'm thankful there was no one else involved as that brings bitterness (which is hard enough to suppress as it is). Hang with good friends, try not to go over the same topic everytime you see them, as that can begin to become boring. Try to find something you liked to do before, or something new that you always wanted to do and go do it. Do not just sit in the house by yourself, even if you are only going for a long walk or something. Good luck

Answer 11

You will but don't let him out of it without a fight. By fight I mean take all you can take from him. He will think twice the next time he gets married. make him pay to get out of the marriage, alimony and don't even give him nothing but the clothes his on his back. . all men are not bad! But, the ones that are deserve all the hell you can give them. Be sure you talk to an attorney and find out you're rights. . Then, start on yourself , making you look the best you can look. You might even get him back if you want him by then, but for sure other guys will look at you.... the new improved you! I know all of women who have done these things and find better men. Men don't like it when their wives let themselves go and , they become weak. So, then they start looking at other women. Make sure if it's another woman that he's after , he will be broke . Us ally when a man tells you he's not in love with you anymore ,you can bet he is got another woman. Don't be his victim!