After 30yrs. of marriage we have been seperated for 5mo. I am in a men's support group, took a men in relationships weekend course, going for councilling, seeing a phsycologist, volunteering my time at the s.p.c.a., working out 5 times a week, quit drinking and smoking. Is this what they call working on yourself?
2006-11-05 09:37:11 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah, your doing ok...find any cute guys?
2006-11-05 09:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dean B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You ask us...complete strangers .."are you doing OK?"
How do you feel? if you're in the process of getting clean & sober you know it takes one day at a time to end the addictions to drinking & smoking. You should definetley incorperate physical activity into your get well regime. Join a gym--- work out ! The endorphins will give you a natural high. And it will help to curb the appeal of putting poision into your body. Stay in the counseling. You need the support and information you will acquire from interacting / participating with these groups. Your life has taken a turn...the journey ahead is full of unexpected and unpredictable events. You will do better on the journey if you keep your mind, body and soul healthy. You can call it "working on yourself", but, ONLY if you put in determined effort to make the remainder of your life the best years of your life. If you're just going through the motions until you find some seemingly good excuse to hit the bottle and give up then I'd say you're not doing ok...I'd saying you are failing miserably. Choose the life you want to live. You can do it. Be determined !!! Have a strong will to overcome the toxic substances that will take you to hell.
2006-11-05 10:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this is a very good start on working on yourself. Now you must deside if this "seperated" marrage is worth saving or time to move on. It is up to you but if you want to move on its hard to do with still being halfway attached to someone else
2006-11-05 09:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by littlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right things. It's great that you are seeking help to help you cope. Remember to keep some time for yourself too, don't over do it.
2006-11-05 09:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats called a real total transformation.....you are not only working on yourself you are making yourself more healthier...and also helping the less fortunate...well done...keep it up...and im sure everyone around you will notice these changes and appreciate them....
2006-11-05 09:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're making some progress,you must really want a second chance with this person,or you wouldn't be going through all these steps.. good luck... =)
2006-11-05 09:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how are u feeling about yourself? Does the change make u feel good?
2006-11-05 09:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Miss V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an excellent start. Keep going.
2006-11-05 09:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ... i wish my husband would take you as an example .... he is in jail right now for drinking and driving (2 DWI 's) and other stuff but still i wish he could quit!! well your doing great! please let me know of your progress.... jtnd19@ yahoo.com ~jen
2006-11-05 09:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by jenee' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋