When our son was first born, I was a stay at home mom, but I felt that I wanted to go back to work. Now my husband is a stay at home dad (a great one), and he and our son get along extremely well. However, my husband is the only one who our son will let comfort him. Whenever someone wants to hold our son (someone our son doesn't know very well or at all), and my husband walks out of our sons sight, he starts to cry and throw a fit. I know that children have stranger anxiety, but it seems as if our son's is very extreme. Sometimes he won't even let me comfort him. What would you suggest we do to get him to not be like this whenever my husband has walked out of the room? Our son is one year old.
2006-11-05 09:27:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My husband is not a pedophile. I said mature answers only. What is it with stupid people?!
2006-11-05 09:54:21 · update #1
Your baby is used to having his daddy around and at present feels safest while in his company. I realize that this is hurtful sometimes but the poor child does not know that he is hurting you or anyone else's feelings, he is merely looking out for his own safety. I remember when my first granddaughter was born she reacted a lot like this for a couple of years and it sometimes drove my daughter in law a little crazy. But today at age 7 she has learned to become comfortable with others, including her Papa, and is quite happy and relaxed around strangers - although at times still a bit shy. If possible try and do as much as possible together as a family so child will respond more positively to you but at present he does sound like daddy's boy. Please do not be jealous or envious of this as soon enough he will be bothering you. Ha! Enjoy the freedom that he is allowing you at present because soon enough....
2006-11-05 09:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a one year old boy and he does the exact same thing when i leave the room. my husband is a stay at home dad as well. i work on a apt community so i'm not too far. i suggest you spend as much time with him as possible without your hubby around and let him cry. he'll eventually get used to you and or others. he just has that bond with his dad. and that is a good thing. just let your son get use to the idea that if dads not there its okay to be comforted by someone else. even if he crys. after 20 minutes if hes still crying call dad but try to do it yourself. thats what i think.
2006-11-05 10:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a stay at home dad too with my 4 month old son (my second child).
It is normal for your son to want to be comforted by his Dad because he is basically the Mummy and you are the Daddy now. When children are sick or want comforting they always want their mummy, which is daddy right now. I suggest you take your Son out more when you arent working to bond with him again. Ask your husband what your Son likes and then do that for him when it's just the 2 of you bonding. It will get better. Trust me.. just spend more time with him.
2006-11-05 12:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cassidy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still so young, he may be like that for a few more years. Don't worry though, he'll eventually grow out of it. Could you imagine a 16 year old boy jumping in his father's arm's crying? LOL, it just means your husband takes good care of your son and your son feels very secure in his daddies arms. That's so very sweet. My son, who is also one, is the same way. He screams when my husband leaves for work, but he's over it within a few minutes. Try leaving your son with a trusted grandma, or aunt. Someone you are sure he's familiar with and likes. Make goodbye's short and sweet, and he will eventually learn that mommy daddy always comes back.
2006-11-05 09:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for a child to have such a bond with a the "care giver" parent. Try and spend more one on oen time with your son. Let your husband take a night out with the guys and just you stay with him this will give him a good adjustment in a familar surrounding before he becomes school age. Then work on up to other family members until he sees that it is ok to be with and get comfort from other adults in the family. This is just my opinon but try this web site it might help you a bit more. http://www.brainconnection.com/topics/?main=fa/separation2
2006-11-05 09:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by lost_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off I'd like to say the man who called your husband a pedophile is an idiot! how does a dad loving his son make him a pedophile i think your husband sounds wonderful your son is use to spending most of his time with his dad and that's why he's so attached to him it doesn't mean he loves you any less maybe you should try on some of the days you have off from work making special days for just you and your son like going to the park (not saying that you dont do these things ) but try to do it alone just you and him so he has time to make a stronger bond with you dont stress it your son behavior is normal but im sure he loves you to death your his mommy my daughter is like that with my mom it's like she loves me more then anything and is all over me and right behind me anywhere i go in the house she follows me and i take her everywhere with me and as soon as my mom steps foot in my house my daughter forgets anyone else even exists and she cries like someone is killing her when my mom leaves
2006-11-05 13:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal at this age for almost all children to be like this. My son will only come to me for comfort even if I am in a different area of the house and his dad is right beside him.
Down the road though if he does not open up more to people it will need to be addressed.
2006-11-05 09:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by shabuandshabu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start with you have an excellent husband! Not to many out there that can do that! Sounds like the typical problem mothers have, be glad he has wonderful attachment. Hes just a daddys boy! Should be a proud thing for you as his wife and the boys mother! Just spend a little alone time with him more...This is what I tell my hubs! Worked too!
2006-11-05 09:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Stacie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's fine. My son is almost 1 and he does this to me all the time. I am a stay at home mom. They just become most comfortable around the person they spend the most time with.
2006-11-05 09:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal. There's no such thing as bonding too much when it comes to parents and babies. Same thing happened with us - our baby cried whenever I left the room, but after spending more time playing with his father (with me in the room), he finally started letting me go more often without crying. As for other people, it will take a lot more time. My sociable 5 month old (he went to ANYONE) suddenly wouldn't let even familiar people hold him when he was 9 months. Now he takes his time warming up to someone before going near them.
2006-11-05 12:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by veroanique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋