Tell me what resources did you find helpful in getting healing?
2006-11-05 09:18:55 · 12 answers · asked by Panda Lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are no rules. When you feel comfortable, then you're ready to date. Dating can actually be very healing because it will help you reaffirm that there are people out there with whom you can have a genuine relationship. It helps to talk with other people who have been through the same thing. There were two books that helped me: "Happily Even After" by Alan Cohen, and "Spiritual Divorce" by Debbie Ford. My ex read them, too, it helped both of us and we have a good relationship now, which is important because we co-parent our kids.
2006-11-05 09:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is tricky.If you are ready then go for it.If you are just lonely then maybe a night out with the guys would be better in the long run.If you have kids you should be very careful as to how you handle any dating because they will see and remember every detail of how you act.Also be honest with yourself and carefully look at what will be better for you in the long run (dating or the single life for awhile).I have chosen the single life for some time now.It helped me heel and gave me enough time to collect my thoughts so I could make better choices also it helped build my bank account again.
2006-11-05 09:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I began dating while we were separated (in California you must be separated at least 6 months before your divorce goes through.. ours took 9 months) but nothing serious. I think it will vary for everyone. A friend of mine waited years. I think it's all up to you. You will know when you are ready. Going to a counselor might help. Good luck.
2006-11-05 09:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by ca_kerri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started dating about 3 months after it was final. Didnt really need time to heal. My ex was an idiot and I was glad to get rid of him.
2006-11-05 09:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can not say enough good things about the hospice ppl as they have a grief recovery class,and after my divorce I cried for months but I did surround myself with close friends and family ,and I had a torrid affair with this guy that was just fun,so basically it is up to you GL
2006-11-05 09:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by erica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About 6 months.
2006-11-05 11:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by eimmahs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immediately - This helped the healing process; just remember not to dwell on the subject when dating. Church groups can also help. Good luck.
2006-11-05 09:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by bthood02 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited 0.021 seconds to date after my divorce. the best healing is to go out in the world and have fun. this gets your troubles off your mind. go out and have fun!
2006-11-05 09:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I met a girl about 4 days after my divorce was final. I bang babes all the time though, that's how I live!
2006-11-05 09:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
YOU HAVE GOT TO HEAL YOURSELF MOVE ON IF YOU DONT IT WILL RUIN YOU GOOD LUCK BUT YOU CAN DO IT I KNOW I DID AND HAVE NEVER LOOKED BACK ALWAYS FORWARD
2006-11-05 09:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Edward B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋