I'm tired of being jealous. I've gotten a lot better since I was younger, but it's still there. I don't do it much at all when I'm single, really just when I'm in a relationship. Like I said, I've become a lot more secure with myself, but I still feel that way sometimes, and I hate it. How do some girls just let all of that stuff roll off their shoulders?
2006-11-05 09:11:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Jealousy comes usually when you are one of two things.
The first is when you love or care about the person your with.
And the second is when you do not trust him and am afraid to lose him. Unfortunately in this day and age many people cheat. But they will do so whether you are jealous or not. Jealously will not prevent this. It only shows you as a weak person. There are other ways to deal with this. And if you really care for this person, trust him, be open and talk about your feelings. For any other help Skype me. Good luck, Simon Palmer
2006-11-05 09:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by SIMON P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been told that jealousy is a form of insecurity. i'm still not sure if that's entirely true. i think it is to some extent, but there has to be a reason why a person can't feel secure in a relationship. i think that jealousy may stem from a lack of trust in others, which could go back many years. i think the best thing to do is ask yourself why feel the way you do, what are the underlying thoughts behind those feelings? i am a jealous person too, but i try to control it as best i can
2006-11-05 09:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural to be a bit jealous. However if you are extremely jealous, it just means that you don't appreciate what you have enough. Think of Thanksgiving Day and give yourself a head start. If you learn to appreciate all the things you have and are and all of those people who are there for you, your self-steem would improve and you won't be so jealoous. Also it seems to me that you need to really appreciate others. It sounds like you want to control them and you're not happy because you can't. Just be loving and let everything else fall on death ears.
2006-11-05 09:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is an ugly thing, it'll make you do things that you normally wouldn't do. I'm a married woman and even before that, i have always told myself, that I would never sweat the next woman. What I mean by that is, if i'm in a relationship or married and my husband/boyfriend decides he doesn't want me anymore, I will accept that, i'm not going to argue or fight with another female, for no man. He either wants me, or he doesn't, I will never intentionally, get caught up in a love triangle, there's too many men out there and besides, i'm a beautiful woman, inside and out. My husband has a good woman and i have a good man and I pray we stay married, for a long long time.
2006-11-05 09:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want to change, then start reassuring yourself that he won't leave you for another girl. I think the jealousy comes from insecurity.
What makes you jealous?
If he's flirting with them, you have a right to be. You should also set him straight!
If they're just talking casually or she glances at him (vice versa), take some deep breaths and say "If he wanted her, he'd leave me for her. He hasn't yet so its all good.".
Anyways, if you can't change the way you are, find a guy who can tolerate you.
You'll be much happier with him than being fake with another guy.
2006-11-05 09:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Gwyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a VERY common thing. do u know anyone who hasn't experienced this? i know this prolly has nothing to do with it, but write a pretend letter to them. but pretend u are really going to give the letter to them. write why u are jealous of them and what u wish they would do that would make u feel better. after u are through, re-read it, seal it up, and think about it. i hope this helps.
2006-11-05 09:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥#1 Miley Cyrus Fan♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get with some good friends and make everyone write a list of everyone else's positive traits and best features. consult yours in crisis situations :D
2006-11-05 09:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u don't trust enough. trust ur boyfriend unless u have a good reason not to. after all, innocent until proven guilty. if he truly likes you, u have no reason to be jealous.
2006-11-05 09:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Loveangerbeauty. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to become sadisfied with what you have. have you ever thought that those girls who have everything arnt happy? the best thing to have is to be happy with what you DO have.
2006-11-05 09:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is worry about you and not about others.
2006-11-05 10:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋