i am 22 and talked to my mom today and she told me that her and my dad are gonna get different apartments. She said that they are headed different ways in life so they are not mad or anything about eachother just cant live together. Why am i so hurt at 22 but i know i am gonna bottle it.
2006-11-05 09:01:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my family is a mess my dad abused me when i was younger and denied it my mom believed him and now this 4 years later.
2006-11-05 09:08:46 · update #1
it doesn't matter what age you are...when your parents split up it still hurts you. I don't think you would be normal if it didn't bother you. People change as time goes on. Life changes people, it is easy to grow apart. You don't have to be mad, or fighting. Sometimes things just change,. That doesn't mean that they can't still be friends They will all ways be your paraents together or apart.
2006-11-05 09:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and I would be just as hurt. It's hard when the support system you have had all growing up changes so dramatically. It's also hard because you learned a lot about marriage and communication from them on the basis that it worked for them. Now you're seeing that it did not necessarily work for them. This changes the way that you'll probably look at a lot of history in your family, and it is completely normal to be this upset.
Please do not bottle it up, though. Find a friend you can talk to, or if you have siblings, you should discuss it with them. It's much better to process this with someone.
2006-11-05 17:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Heather P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The world isn't going to come to an end just because your parents are going their separate ways. It's not like they are going to the moon. I'm sure you had relationships going and broke up and started new ones. I'm sure your parents survived your breakups.
I think what is bothering you is that your mother did not believe it that your father abused you. I think with your mother being alone and outside of your father's influence, she will be able to think clearly and everything will fall into place. Think of it this way, if he abused his own daughter, then your mother's life with him couldn't have been all that great, otherwise she would not be leaving him. Don't feel hurt over their separation, and don't feel to blame. It's between the two of them. As for bottling it up, whatever you have festering in your mind and heart, has to come out. Maybe not now, give your mother time to chill. It is what it is and it will be understood in time.
2006-11-05 18:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because everybody at any age believe that marriage specially our parents, is going to last forever, and in any way if that ends you feel like your family end. Not true, you always will have your parents, only that now they live separately. Thin about them as two happy people instead of a sad couple
2006-11-05 17:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by pelancha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your parents live their lives in the way that is best for them and it is time for you to get on with your own life. You are no longer a child so you must focus on making your dreams come true without being overly concerned about your parents. It's all about personal choice. They made theirs, now it is your turn to make yours.
Best wishes!
2006-11-05 17:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound normal to me. they are your parents. any one would be freaked out by this. maybe they just grew apart, lots of couples have trouble after the kids are gone, because they haven't spent any time on their own relationship with each other, or maybe they have grown to dislike/resent each other. most adult kids, your category, would be shocked, hurt, and upset with this separation. just try to remain nuetral and keep a relationship with both parents. don't try to get them back together, but i think its ok for you to tell them how you feel. they may already know. life just sucks sometimes, but you'll get through it. be tough!
2006-11-05 17:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by liz c the soul never dies, Dr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to feel this way. Your world is changing without your permission. Don't bottle it up...talk to your parents. It sounds to me like they are handling this very well.
2006-11-05 17:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter the age that you'll get affected by something like that.. Just take an easy, and just support their decision.
2006-11-05 17:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by babycs_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal! Don't worry! Of course you will get upset, but you just happen to understand it more now that you're older.
2006-11-05 17:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lemme see..... Coming here on Yahoo when you can go to a theripist, abnormal. But your situation, normal.
2006-11-05 17:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋