give me a quick answer to this ? there are signs my husband is cheating , what do i do/?

Question

I FIND THINGS ON THE INTERNET WHERE IS HAS BEEN TO TWO DIFFRENT SINGLES SITES. AND LATELY HE IS ACTING FUNNY, HELP ME OUT.

Answer 1

Alot of people go to singles' sites just out of curiosity. That alone does not mean that he's cheating. Changes in normal routines should send up a red flag. Just be alert and if you really suspect that he's cheating...confront him.

J

Answer 2

Hi blue eyes is it possible that he is just surfing the pics of women on these sites and is not looking for sex elsewhere . after all some of these sites are almost pornographic in their content .
He maybe acting strange for any reason but if you have concerns confront him with the sites you have found but in an inquisitive way not as an accusation because if he thinks he is cornered with his paw caught in the trap he will become defensive and most likely lye to you . I dont know your history together but I would be more worried as to why you dont trust him , and would think he was cheating on you rather than another reason.

Answer 3

I am a married christian woman, so this is how i would handle this. If you are not a christian you may think this answere is no good. But here is my opinion. It is very important to trust in a relationship. But if you do doubt your husbands faithfulness it is most important that you are not sneaky and "detective like." talk to him. He is your husband, your best friend, you lifetime companion. Do not give up on your marriage vows so quickly. Remember you siad for better or for worse. I urge you to make sure you are doing everything right in the relationship that you can. Make sure you are pleasing him too, sexually and in everyday life. That is what women were made for. Of course this all depends on what your husband is like. He may be cheating and he may be happy with that. If this is true then you should try to work it out. If he does not want to then it is up to you what you should do. But think about this, maybe he has just been making mistakes. If he loves you and is really willing to make your marriage work I would not leave him right away. Give it time to repair things. Sorry my answer has not been a quick one. I would suggest to you both if you want to work things out that you read 'The Excellent Wife' by Martha Peace, and for him to read the "Exeplary Husband'. These book have really helped strengthen my marriage. I hope this helps and I wish you the best, bye now

Answer 4

Go to "manhaters.com" and download a "key-logger" that will log your husbands keystrokes on the computer--that way, you will be able to track what sites he has been frequenting, find out any passwords, and see everything he has been writing to other women on the computer. They are very easy to install, and my friend did this even though her husband is pretty much a computer genius, and it was undetectable by him. Watch him this way for a few weeks and then sit down and talk to him about what you have found.

Answer 5

when a man cheats he looses interest in the things he use to do with you, they use to talk to you, but all of a sudden there is alot of silence. to confront him will only make him be more careful, and you won't get the truth from him, until it is way too late to do anything about it. does he go out alot, and stay gone for hours, or suddenly he has to go out of town to work, saying it will require he stay overnight, when he never did that before. has he changed sexually when he makes love to you? does he stop asking your opinion, as if he doesn't value your opinion anymore? does he go into different rooms to talk on the phone? does he suddenly take more baths than he use to? if u feel he is acting funny, than that's your intuition telling you something is wrong. what u do once u find out is your choice, but i would definitly want to know, even if i had to get someone to follow him. it's almost feels as if you aren't even included in his life anymore.

Answer 6

Blue: Your husband is on the prowl. "7 year itch" perhaps? Ask him directly, "since you are married to me, why are you on the hunt" ? He will go into denial and attempt to justify his misbehaviour by either, lieing about it or make up some excuse. Either way, your marriage is becoming an endangered species. Get into marriage counselling to attempt to salvage the relationship. Chances are, he will already have had a date with the Dating service(s). If this is the case, he will be reluctant to hang around and in time when he finds his new "catch", you will be moved to the back-burner. The poor girl, who ends up with him, she will have to live with the knowledge in her head, about "Don Juan" [husband] running around on her. Give a marriage counsellor a try ... at least YOU did YOUR part to remedy the fallout ! Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I would try talking to him about it. If you don't have trust....there goes the relationship. If you are at a point that you just want to know...download a key logger. there are plenty of free ones. They are hidden and you can see everything he types. I would just leave with the info you have....I have zero tolerance for cheating and no matter what anyone says, there are many forms of cheating and that's one. He wouldn't be looking on those sites if he wasn't looking.
Good luck,
~T~

Answer 8

If you can't trust him - maybe you should consider leaving for the both of you. How would you take it if he were logging your computer or had a person following you around (assuming you are faithful). Invading his privacy is a pretty good way to end it whether he is cheating on you or not. I would have a serious problem with that and I have been faithful my 16 attached years - not married - just committed!

Answer 9

I'm really sorry.

If you're finding sites that he been visiting, and they are for "singles", I'd say what he's doing is pretty obvious. Whether or not he's physically "cheated" is irrelevant. If he's looking around on "singles" sites, his intentions are pretty clear

Talk to him, before it goes any further! If he respected you, he wouldn't be doing that. If there's no "respect" in your marriage, I'd take another look at it.

I wish you best of luck.

Answer 10

I'm sure a lot of people will disagree with me. But if I were you (and I'm assuming you can't just come out and ask him...because he'll deny it), I'd want hard evidence before accusing him or freaking out. I'd buy one of those activity loggers... yo ucan download them online for like $30. It logs all the keyboard strokes and websites he visits. Try googling keystroke recorder. Good luck.