He has always said that I am his best friend. he has made christmas/easter/valentines day cards for me and not for either of his parents. In school when asked to wite about his hero he wrote about me. I love him to death and hate to see him left with just his parents who are both unstable on some level.
2006-11-05 08:14:46 · 12 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Continue to stay in his life. He will need you. He is 12 and if he wants to continue seeing you he should be able to decide. He is certainly old enough. Be there as much as you have always been. He needs you and will miss you.
2006-11-05 08:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you have this close relationship with him.I think it would be a terrible loss to both of you to end it.You will most likely find that he will become a better man if the 2 of you keep in touch.There are so many kids out there today that need someone to talk to and be a mentor to them.The sad thing is alot of parents don't take enough time to be that person.Hold your head high and show this young man what a real father figure should be.
2006-11-05 08:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds very almost precisely like what occurred with my husband and his daughter years in the past (his daughter is now very almost 25). It brought about me some rigidity to study it. i'm so sorry. My husband did no longer lose his family individuals, yet seeing his daughter replaced into made very almost impossible and he replaced into badmouthed via the mummy continuously besides as yelled at and compelled. We did get an lawyer and spent lots time and money and it did no longer substitute a factor (this replaced into approximately 17 years in the past). The courtroom basically cared that he paid his help (which he did). He observed her lots while she replaced into youthful and then no longer lots until eventually she called him at age sixteen. We observed her some situations from an prolonged time sixteen - 18 and then at 19 she grew to grow to be offended with him and has decrease off touch (the years of badmouthing at artwork...). i'm sorry to declare i've got not got a happy ending for you. It replaced right into a heartache for my husband (he has come to extra suitable words with it). only be supportive. My husband is a very good guy and an exceedingly great father. we've toddlers (an prolonged time sixteen and 13) and he's a great discern. i think undesirable because of the fact his daughter neglected out on having him around because of the fact her mom is in order that offended and bitter. His daughter is extremely clever and thrilling and that i omit her besides. our toddlers do no longer understand her lots and that saddens me too. i'm sorry and comprehend the soreness and rigidity you're the two feeling. from time to time issues are only no longer fixable. i might save attempting to work out him and perchance you're able to have an more desirable consequence. i visit % you lots success!
2016-10-21 07:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by crabbs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step one is to get the mom's permission to have ongoing contact with him. If you two are in combat she could legally prevent you from having contact with him.
If she does OK continued contact with him make sure there is agreement with her about how that's done. She may be initially restrictive but loosen up if everything goes ok.
Finally no matter how difficult she is never bad-mouth her to her kid. I know you will be sorely tempted but if you are truely wanting to maintain a relationship with him that will be positive you must do that.
Beyond that don't act any different with him, be dependable and constant with him. Make your time with him less stressful, not more stressful, by staying out of inevidable conflicts between everyone else in his life.
2006-11-05 08:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Pat D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue The Relationship Wit Him If His Parents Don't Mind. It Seems Like U Love Him Like He's Ur Own And Spend Time WIt Him Take Him Places. B His Step Daddy No Matter Wat N If Ur Not Allowed 2 Spend Time Wit Him Now Wat Until U R And Make Up 4 Lost Times Don't Let Anything Get Between That.
2006-11-05 08:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by 06ThugMissez06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of people who have stayed in touch with their step parents even after the divorce. He is a minor and his mom will be running his life for a while now, but as long as she still lets you play a role, don't step out of this child's life.
2006-11-05 08:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to have a relationship with him if his mother will let you. If she is a decent person at all, she will let you. He is at a rough age and if you are not a part of his life, it could be devastating for him. Good luck!
2006-11-05 08:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All u can do is be there for him.See him as much as u can.It sounds like u are the only stable thing in his life. So just keep it up.Good luck
2006-11-05 08:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just always be there for him. Let him know that if he needs you you will be there. You can't do anything much more than that. I wish you the best with this.
2006-11-05 08:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a talk with your ex. tell her you still want to be a part of your step son's life. he looks up to you and it would not be fair to just walk away from him. maybe ya'll could come up with a vistiation plan.
2006-11-05 08:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋