plesase letme know the tips to make her understnad>>any pills or any drugs use for that??
2006-11-05 07:58:25 · 16 answers · asked by blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Enroll in sex therapy...yes it does exist
2006-11-05 08:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not able or not willing, these are two different things.
It all depends on what you want her to do. If I'm guessing correctly, she may never do that. there are girls that do and girls that don't.
Don't make the mistake of making it a paramount marital necessity, it is a sure way to slowly lose your wife.
I've been 23 and I've been in your situation, needless to say , I am no longer with that wife.
Sexual things need to be discussed. Before one marries , the question of sexual taboos, needs , and fantasies should be discussed.
If you cannot discuss this, then you're marrying too soon. In your case that's spilled milk.
It is written that sex is only 10% of a marriage when it's good and 90% when it's bad.
There are no norms when it comes to sex, just things that are acceptable and desired and those that are not.
My suggestion to you is to romance her and love her. The more loved she feels, the more accommodating she will become.
Pills would indicate that there is something wrong with her. The fact that you can satisfy her would indicate that there is not.
Love is the only thing you give that will return to you.
Simply love her
2006-11-05 16:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
geez u babies... first ur assuming u satisfy her? I'd wager ur not either. You appear very insensitive to her feelings and/or her well being. Drugs, pills aren't the answer. Fulfilling sex between partners is 90% mental and 10% physical act. It should happen when u both are attracted to one another.
I also think if you'd made that stmt to her, she's turned off. Spend time exploring each others bodies, get some over the counter KY jelly or lotion. Each of you can use it to lubricate your genital area, rub on nipples. Massage, be tender, gentle and give her plenty of time to get aroused by you. Masturbation, letting her get excited, even climaxing without u penetrating. She needs to know that she is enough, while a adult video may help... you should never expect her or force her to do anything. Not all women are comfortable giving their mate a ******** either if that is what u mean she doesn't satisfy me... Sex has alot to do with comfort and trust for many women.
If u are newly married, relax sex usually gets better but open communication and support each other is key. Guide her and love her for who she is, don't try to change her into some sex toy fantasy. Or your marriage will crumble
2006-11-05 18:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're very young, so I'm assuming your wife must be "young" also. Have you considered that maybe she is "uncomfortable" with what you are asking her to do?
So you think "drugging" her is the solution? Suppose you "drug" your wife and she has some bad and serious "reaction" to the drugs. Then what are you going to do?
Let me ask you a question, do you love and respect your wife? If you do then you won't force her to do something that she finds "offensive".
Communication is a huge part of any marriage, you need to sit down and discuss this with her so she understands how you feel. I'm not saying that's going to change the way she feels but if you don't tell her how you feel you may become "resentful" and she won't know why.
Good luck.
2006-11-05 16:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexually??
well... there are different things you guys can do like for instance watching porn together. perform masturbation in front of each other while the porn in playing in the background. go to a strip club together.
tell her exactly what makes you feel good and give her tips on how to do it. control her in a way that wont hurt her feelings.
2006-11-05 16:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start with a bad attitude, it will be a bad performance.
Why should she take medication, because your not satisfied????
Talking, playing, for play, enjoy her.... take some time to understand how her body works, it isn't all about you.
Maybe.... she feels like it is a "job" instead of love making?
If my husband was never satisfied with me, I wouldn't want to jump in the sack!....... ouch!!!
2006-11-05 17:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is something wrong in that department, drugs are not the answer.
Satisfying your partner should come naturally. I'm guesing there is more to the problem than your sharing.
2006-11-05 16:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by WhiteshooZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to communicate and through loving understanding this problem may resolve itself. The brain is a sexual organ.
2006-11-05 16:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember 2=1
you both have to talk about it. tell her what you want her to do to you and she'll tell you hers. Make it sexy, make it kinky, make it hot and sweet and sour. tell her you love her no matter what and guide her thru everything. If you need a video to help you both so do so. go to those xxx stores and rent or buy a mag. buy sexual toys or sprays. I can go on and on...but you both have to agree on this. :)
2006-11-05 16:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by StaR'in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has a low sex drive and you have an even lower level of compassion for her...I don't blame her for not wanting sex. I would suggest you get some sex therapy...
2006-11-05 17:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋