why do i not fit in with anyone?

Question

like when i hang out with people they never hang out with me much after that what the crap i act just like they do in fact i am a clown and we all have a good laugh but only after i know that person usually but it makes me feel like im retarded or something really i mean its not like people dont talk 2 me but like girls say im hot and stuff but when the talk 2 me for like a week or so they just quit why this really bothers me plz help thanx in advance

fu 2 reality

Answer 1

People are a strange species. Most people will act one way, but think the complete opposite way. They act one way, and if somebody tries to be like them, they WILL take offense. It's kinda like they believe theIr, TERRITORY, so to speak, is being invaded. I don't know your age, but you seem to be young. I get this feeling that you are trying to, BE, your friends, instead of being yourself. There is an old saying, 'BE TRUE TO YOURSELF', which is undoubtedly the most viral words of wisdom you will find concerning one's-self. I don't know you, but when you say you are a clown, do you mean 24/7, or, at appropriate moments? The reason I ask, is because I know someone who was always laughing, joking, and picking on people, trying to be funny. Sure he always had people standing around laughing, but at the same time, he had people standing around saying, 'WHAT AN IDIOT'. People, 'ALL', have many things going on in their lives, some good, some bad. Their moods are constantly changing during the course of a day. People are not going to think everything is funny, and depending on what mood they are in, you are subject to stepping on toes. Whether or not this helps you any, I can't say. But, some friendly advice from a stranger, who wasted 3/4 his life trying to impress, and get people to like him..........................................

Most Importantly.....................

BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.............

Don't try to be anybody else..................................

True Friends and Relationships WILL COME TO YOU!!!!

Answer 2

Sometimes, when we meet new people, we are new to them also, and after we know them better, and when they know us better, we will find that relationships are made up of more than just one part, like clowning, laughing.

When the laugh and scratch part is wearing down, you are at a loss as that is your primary function in meeting new people, and it appears you are going overboard to impress them and make them laugh. This explains why you start feeling like you are retarded as you mentioned.

It is not like they just stop liking you, it is that after they have laughed till their sides hurt, it is time for something else.

You need to learn the serious conversation part, learn new interests and activities.

When a person is only good at one thing, when that thing starts getting old to others, you will experience what you are running into now.

Bottom line is, you are trying way too hard to make others like and accept you. Try observing others more, see what they like to do when not laughing, and work this into your program, and you will find it works much better than trying to be a full time clown.

Good news is, making others laugh is the hardest part, so the rest will be very easy for you.

Problem solved,

Darryl S.

Answer 3

im 30 and still struggle to get people to accept me, as you get older you ll learn to develop your social skills. Perhaps you should try some self help books. Do you have one really good friend that you can trust, can you not ask them why the think people dont accept you then start working on it. As for getting on with girls women love a confident man, not to cocky, not to weak and dont be ridiculously nice although do be nice. Dont let this get you down if you cant love yourself why would someone else love you, positive thinking is the key. good luck and chin up.
P.S. i think your lovely
P.P.S. ignore reality up there his answer sucks and hes the one on a high horse.
good luck friend

Answer 4

Its hard to answer that question without hanging out with you. But I would say stay true to yourself. And ok so you are hot, but how often do you tell a girl that during the course of the week.

Answer 5

While you may like to joke around and have a good laugh, what kind of jokes do you tell? A guy that I knew loved to joke around but his jokes were pretty bad.

I was speaking of a friend of mine who I greatly respect and he without even knowing her called her "Gigi G-String". I was highly offended and told him so. Make sure that your jokes are not offensive.

Look at yourself and at the people that you are trying to be friends with. Maybe the people that you are attempting to hang out with are not interested in the same things you are. Try to find people to be friends with that have your same interests.

Take care and Good Luck Finding Good Friends,
Troy

Answer 6

Maybe you are trying to hard to fit in. The realization is, be yourself. If people don't like you for it, then screw them, they are the ones missing out. As far as girls go, you are young, just have fun and you will find the girl for you. Good Luck!

Answer 7

well u shoul reconcider the people u hang wit if thier gonna treat u like crap there not friends u should find a group of people who accept u 4 u

Answer 8

you don't need to fit in with anyone you are your own person and fiting in is going to make you a robot and predictable. Just be you and if they don't like it then tell them to get over themselves there are plenty of other people in the world.

Answer 9

You are lesbians alike.Or you have self proud of yourself.You think that you are only one fish in the ocean of love.There are plenty and plenty flowing in the ocean.Man used go for fishing.

Answer 10

Don't try so hard. Be independent and people will want to hang out with you more.