What should i do i want a baby and im only 14, but i love my boyfriend?

Answer 1

well before you do anything rash I recommend you go to the childrens home and aid in your area and tell them you are 14 and want to have a baby and that someone (me) suggested you call them and ask if they could take you to a place where there are single teen Moms. My daughter stayed in a group home for awhile and she saw young girls your age pregnant and with kids and saw the time and hard work it is to take care of their kids. I have no fear that she will ever get pregnant until she is ready and able anymore. she saw girls changing diapers full of leaky diarrhea, cleaning up milk vomit, saw them after they had been staying up all night with a colicky (screaming and crying) infant, she saw how these girls never really have a chance to get off by themselves. no more regular school, no more dates or hanging out with friends cause their friends were going to clubs and the mall and other places where you cannot bring a baby. and before you think the father will marry you, all these girls had were each other there were no fathers of these ababies ANYWHERE to be found, and speaking of your boyfriend; how old is HE, how will he support you and a baby? LOts of girls think it will bring their relationship with the boy closer but often a baby is just bragging rights on the street for a boy,they still chase other girls even more cause you are stuck at home with the kid now and if he is older than 18 what is doing hanging out with a 14 year old? Hes not too mature and I doubt he is a reliable man (boy)why don't you volunteer at a shelter to read to kids or something if you want to se around kids right now to see what a responsibility ( and how expensive day care is). I am telling you also that unless you have a really great job you will never be able to give your baby a decent life, day care cost is ultra expensive, kids themselves are expensive, go price pampers and formula and clothes and a stroller and a crib and bottles and doctors visits and then price MORE clothes ( cause they never stop growing) ..I could go on and on. wait til you have lived a little, too many young lonely girls who think this will help them keep a boyfriend feel like you do and then end up throwing the baby in a garbage can.. and you don't ever want that for your life or your child's... DO YOU? good luck honey, give yourself a chance at having a life before you bring another life into your world. you are worth it and so will be your FUTURE child

Answer 2

Wait at least 6 - 8 years then if you still want one go ahead. You are far too young now. A baby is a huge responsibility for the rest of your life. You are not even young enough to get a job, how do you intend to support it? If you love your boyfriend then just enjoy the time you have together without responsibilities. How old is your boyfriend and does he want a baby too? If he doesn't then you will scare him away. If he does then there is nothing to stop you having children while you are young, I had my son when I was 22, which I would consider to be young, but my husband and I had had 6 fantastic years together to enjoy holidays and nights out. Now our son is here we are contented to stay in and spend our time and money on him. We don't feel tied down, or that we have missed out on anything. I think you would feel like that if you have a baby too young. Also having a child puts a strain on even the most solid of relationships, it is hard work and tiring. You need to know each other well enough to be able to get through these hard times. Lastly, the reality of having a baby is very different from dreaming about it. Don't get me wrong, it is a wonderful experience, but a lot lot harder than you can imagine now.

Answer 3

Do you think it would be fair to the baby to have him/her at this point in your life? Let me put it this way--I worked as a pre-school teacher, Sunday school teacher, nanny, daycare worker etc. Taking care of children is what I did for a living while working through college. I was no stranger to the hard work but none of that, NONE OF IT, prepared me for what it was like to have my own children. There is just no comparison. It is sooooo much more work when they are your own. You think you are prepared for the workload but, trust me, it will surprise you.

Also, if you really love your boyfriend then what is the hurry? I was head over heels in love with my boyfriend when I was 14. Did I marry him? Nope. I didn't marry the next one or the next one or the next one. The man I ended up marrying I met in college. And we were together and married for six years before we had a child!! We waited because we wanted to have time just for each other before adding a baby to the equation. A baby adds so much stress. You will have less time for each other and all the focus will be on the baby. People think the baby will bring them closer but even the best relationships can struggle with adjustment of caring for a child. I am 99.9% sure that you and your boyfriend wouldn't make it beause you are just too young and the emotional maturity isn't there. The stress would tear you guys apart.

I was 25 when I had my first child. I'm so happy I waited because I felt I was much better prepared to take care of a child, both financially and emotionally. But even at 25 it was the toughest thing I've ever taken on.

You are young. You are looking at this and seeing the fantasy and ignoring the reality. Please think about this and realize that you are too young and you do not want to do this to yourself or to your boyfriend. And it is so very unfair to do to a child.

Answer 4

you don't have to have a baby to show your boyfriend how much you love him. Why don't you wait until you have some decent education or at least finished high-school so in case you and your boyfriend decide to part you will always be able to support yourself on your own.
Live your life first before you are responsible for someone elses, find out who you are so you know what you are talking about when your child grows older and needs advice.
Those babys don't stay babys. They grow and start beeing their own little personalities and trust me, it is not easy!! I have 3 myself but startet a little later than 14.
Why don't you try a little babysitting first with some older children too, so you can first see what you are getting into.
Babys are cute alright, but waking up 3 times a night for half a year or longer, being there for them whenever they need you even if you are supposed to be somewhere or do somthing other very important is not easy.
If you need something to cuddle with take your boyfriend.
Grow up first.

Answer 5

your just a child right now a lot of girls your age want a baby taking care of a baby is a big responsibility that your not ready for yet a baby is a lot of work and you may love your boyfriend but your just to young for that right now if you had a baby now when you grow up your gonna say i didnt even get a chance to live my life cause i got pregnant at 14 if i were you i would wait a few more years until i was atleast 18 you dont wanna ruin your life right now and i'm sure your parents dont want you to either i got pregnant at 17 and now im 18 its gonna be hard and going through labor is gonna hurt and be hard a baby really needs to have two parents and some guys are just to sorry to be a dad i'm 5 months with my first being pregnant is hard to

Answer 6

Wait until you are 18 and see if you still want a baby and still love your boyfriend. Chances are the answer will be no to one or both. You are still young and being a parent is a lot of responsibility. At 14 it would be hard for you to be able to provide for a child. You could always try talking to a parent or an older sibling. Best of luck on whatever you decide.

Answer 7

Are you ready to start a new life? are you ready to be a mother? are you ready for marriage?! Are you sure you can handle the responsabilities? if you wanna end your fun teen-age life, take the risk, & go for it.-You may regret it & wish you would have waited!! I'm 36 & thankful I didn't run out, get married & have kids, be a "father" cause I'm still not ready for all that yet!!-another thing, is he requesting to have kids? just cause you love someone doesn't mean you need to have kids, wait a long time untill your 100% sure you do, plus, your only 14, If I was you I'd wait untill at least after high school! -don't throw your life away,-good luck...P.S.: -this is a "guy" suggesting you all this, read all the other answers the women told you , some of them may have made the mistake &/or have better answers for ya.

Answer 8

Yes they are cute and interesting. Try living with one 24hours a day. Don't tell me you've tried that. Multiply that experience by 365 and you've done a year. How much poo has gone in your well-looked-after nails after that? At this stage, some of your best friends will have nothing in common with you due to your lack of social time. But don't despair, just another 15 years of hard work, worry and mild depression and then the real worry comes when they turn into you as they'll want kids. And that's if you're lucky. Giving birth is the easiest bit. And it is twice as hard if you are a lone parent - and chances are high at aged 14.

Answer 9

you are way to young. i am 14 years old to and want kids some day but wait at least 5 years. you still have the rest of your life for that. If you and your boyfriend love each other, there is no doubt you will be together until then.

Answer 10

You are to young to be thinking about baby's think about college and making something of yourself. A baby is a full time job for the rest of your life. I really don't know why your thinking of sex well no now a days i guess that's the age but i didn't even understand sex until i was 17 i had my first child when i was 19 and i was married and it's still hard so just imagine what it would be if you had to do it at 14 by yourself. Please don't consider it.