Im a single mum of 3 i have a baby of 20 weeks and im having suicidal thoughts?

Question

I took an overdose on Monday

Answer 1

Speak to your health visitor. You may be suffering from post natal depression. Don't worry that she will get other agencies involved since it is a very common condition and she will be well used to dealing with it. It may also be a good idea to talk to your GP since they can prescribe medication to help which you can take even if you are breast feeding. There are also Post natal depression groups out there, these tend to be self help groups with an employed person there to talk to and other mums that have suffered the same thing. I personally suffered with both my children so I no it can be very frightening but I can say that when I admitted it to my health visitor and GP all I recieved was total support and care. They gave me a lot of reassurance put me in touch with the local post natal group and also put me in contact with homestart. Homestart is an organisation that sends a volunteer out to you to help with the children, the volunteers are usually parents themselves and quite often grandparents the volunteer will support you as long as you have a child under 5years. Hope this helps as for tonight try to distract yourself, maybe play games, have a bath or listen to some music tommorrow tell someone it does help.

Answer 2

hi Jenna
i know exactly how u feel i was the same way after my son was born with medication and therapy i have made a full recovery.

i urge you to speak to your GP and health visitor immediately, they will listen to u you and help you , they wont think you just stressed and tired etc...

you may also be thinking that your a 'bad mum' and i promise you ur not !!!!

what you have is a recognised illness that can be treated , its caused by not enough 'happy hormone' called serotonin and too much 'sad hormone' called dopamine which with simple drugs can be rectified.

please i urge you to seek help straight away, i know being a single mum is terribly hard work ( im one too) and everything gets too much after a while, but there is absolutely no shame in asking for help , maybe your family or friends could help you out for a few hours to give you a break that really does help!!!

your children need you and you need them

i promise with the right help these feelings will go away and you will be happy again

all the best to you and your family xx

Answer 3

Jenna

Having a baby is the hardest job in the world and with 2 other children and being single you must be exhausted. You will cope because your children need you. Do not be afraid to ask for help, look at all the people on this site who care about you. Take strength from all the good wishes you are being sent and you will get through this. Much love.

Answer 4

Suicidal thoughts are usually a sign of depression. It is not that unusual: these thoughts an expression of the stress you are under. Suicidal thoughts are a lot different to carrying out the actual act. The fact that you have posted this question suggests you are asking for help, you recognise these thoughts are not constructive because you are asking for solutions - you are still rational. Suicidal thoughts should be a cause for concern and you should ring your doctors as soon as possible and tell them how you feel. There is help for this and you will be fine - you are asking for help and you will get it.

Answer 5

i know how you feel,i was a single mum of 2 and i felt so down that some days i couldn't get out of bed,all i did was sit there and stared into space whilst my 2 little uns played in front of me,eventually one day i looked at my kiddies and burst out crying for thinking horrible thoughts,i was all they had,i went to the docs (by this time my baby was 10 months old) and said i had post natal depression,just hearing a doc say that kinda made things easier,i wasn't wierd or anything,it was perfectly normal,my baby is now 8yrs old and i love every day with them and i'm glad i went to the docs that day,it helps to talk about it,it wont go away over night but with help from the right people,in a couple of years time you'll look back and think,thank god i got help. i wish you all the luck hun

Answer 6

You have Post Partum Depression. This is a serious, but common condition that women experience after giving birth. Go talk to someone that can help you. Social services, a health care provider, your religious leader if you have one. These people are in a position to give you help. You can even call your local maternity ward, some hospitals have a 24 hour crisis line.

It is NOT a crime to admit you need help with Post Partium Depression. It will help you and your children in the long run, and it will help your mental health. It is a crime if you don't get help, and you leave your 3 children without their mother.

Answer 7

Jenna, you must go and talk to your health visitor or GP. Don't be ashamed - anyone in your position would feel depressed sometimes. I just have the one child and I frequently feel like tearing my hair out.

It may be that they refer you to the social services. Do not be horrified by this - it won't mean they think you're being a bad mum, just that you may be in need of some support. There really are lots of things they can offer - family aide, respite care etc. Something that'll give you a bit of time to yourself.

You probably feel completely alone - but, honestly, you're not. You just need to tell people how you are feeling, and things will get better. Promise.

Stay strong xxxx

Answer 8

You may be experiencing post-par tum depression, especially if you have never had these thoughts before.

Judging from the use of the word "mum" I'm assuming you live in England. I am not familiar with your social service agencies but please do contact someone post haste.

Thoughts are often temporary but suicide is permanent. Please call someone to help you.

I wish you the best.

Peace.

EDIT: Jenna, I just looked at your page to see if I could send you a blind/blind e-mail through the server. You don't allow it so if you need to talk to someone, I'll be here for a bit longer. You'll be OK, this too, shall pass. Peace.

Answer 9

Hi, i feel for you I really do. I have been in the exact same place. And i know it is a very dar place to be in. Please go and tell your GP. Postnatal depression is an awful thing to suffer from, but is treatable. Tell your GP exactly how you have been feeling - and make sure u tell them about the suicidal thoughts. I didnt say anyting to mine because I was scared that they would take my 3 children away, I promise you that is not what they are about!!

There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Can I recomend that you look at the national association of phsychologists website, it explaines postnatal depression in plian english and makes you feel like you arent going mad

I wish you the very best of luck - and please be strong.

Answer 10

It's great that you've posted on this site, because it means you're willing to accept help. You need to talk to a medical professional a.s.a.p., preferably your GP, but if you don't feel you can do that, your Health Visitor.

Suicidal thoughts always need to be taken seriously. They are one of the classic symptoms of clinical depression. You have three children and no partner, and the chances are you don't tend to put yourself first and take good care of yourself. It's totally understandable, but right now you are plainly struggling and need to take some time to address this issue.

The information given out by Mind on postnatal depression is very helpful, I've listed the URL below.