I love experiencing the passion of secret affairs. How can I stop? By the way, my husband adores me and knows of 3 men I have been with and forgives me and I don't think he ever cheats on me. I really don't.
2006-11-05 07:27:10 · 34 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lasy you really need to get a life this is the second question you have posted and obviously you seem to think it is funny get off of the computer and go seek help a divorce lawyer sounds good to me.. GET A REAL LIFE. your poor husband I hope that you have no children you are teaching them how to disrespect themselves and others.. What a loser you are
2006-11-05 07:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You stop cheating on your husband by examining why you cheat on him to begin with. Yes, you like experiencing the passion of secret affairs, but then what? If that's your reasoning then you will never, ever be satisfied. You will continue to have these affairs as long as your husband indulges your behavior or until you get to be too old to have them.
Do you really want to stop? Were you the one who told your husband about the affairs? Do you really care if he forgives you? What makes you so sure he doesn't cheat?
When I reply to people who cheat, or are thinking about cheating, I ask them the same questions:
1. Do you love your spouse, and are you willing to work at mending your relationship, not just giving lip service to it?
2. How would you feel if your spouse were doing this to you?
3. What is the worst-case scenario if you decide not to give up your affair(s)?
Number 3 would always be enough to make me think more than twice about an affairs. In your case, it would be:
- Your husband stops being forgiving of your behavior
- You contract a sexually transmitted disease and give it to him
- You become pregnant
- The psycho wife / significant other of the object of your affair comes after you and / or your husband and wreaks havoc in your life
- All of the above happen to you
If you don't love your husband, then leave him. Don't make him a part of this. Even if he's willing to be with you, one of you has to do what's right. If you find these affairs emotionally fulfilling, ask yourself at what cost you are willing to be fulfilled.
Only you know if you REALLY want to bring these affairs to an end. Be honest with yourself. If you want out, then do what it takes- including counseling individually and as a couple. If you're not serious, be honest and continue with this lifestyle; just don't drag others down with you as you do.
2006-11-05 08:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need help B- A -D! These words are harsh but true....
You are missing something in your life. You must be a miserable person deep down inside to keep hurting a man that is continuously forgiving you. You should be ashamed. There has got to be something missing in your life for you to keep doing this. Don't you feel any remorse? Your husband must be a good man to keep putting up with this terrible life he must be living to keep learning time after time about his wife's affairs. It's not a matter of "How you can do it"....it's a matter of "Will you stop doing it?". You have the power to stop doing this...all you have to do it stop. It's like making up your mind to do anything else in life...you just do it. Not only are you hurting your husband, but you are most likely embarrassing your whole family buy acting this way. You will regret this in the long run. Go get help.
PS- From reading your other questions and answers I take it you don't like sex with your husband and you don't think true-love exists. You don't even like kissing your husband.,.,,so why are you still with him, hurting him? What ever floats your boat!
By the Way....Rob H. below is a looser!
2006-11-05 07:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well Ms. Applechee I would suggest that the easiest way to stay faithful to your husband would be to keep your legs closed. Although you stated that your husband has forgiven you for past indiscretions I'm certain that it must hurt him deeply to think that the woman he adores so feels the need to cheat with others behind his back. Take a look at your relationship and if you feel that it is what you want then try and salvage it, if not get out of it and discontinue hurting the man you walked down the aisle with. If need be seek counselling from either a sex therapist or marriage counsellor.
2006-11-05 07:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's apparent that you have a problem that should be dealt with. The question is how long will your husband put up with your bad behavior? He may forgive you, but how can he ever forget the pain and anguish that you have put him through. When you cheat, your destroy the sanctity of marriage. If you are bored with sex between you, there are many ways that you could try to spice up your love life. There's also marriage counseling to find out what the root of the problem may be. I hope you will consider your actions and get help to save your marriage.
2006-11-05 07:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old you feel if your spouse cheated on you? Would you be ok with that?
The only way to stop having affairs is willpower. If you loved your husband and cared about him, you wouldn't have started in the first place.
2006-11-06 08:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are acting selfishly. You are hurting your husband for your selfish interests. That is NOT love. Funny though, in the end you will only be burning yourself. These things have a way of turning around and eventually you may have to experience the same pain you are putting him through. Once you have been hurt that badly yourself, I think you will change your ways.
2006-11-05 07:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're psycho. You should not be doing this to your husband. Stop going out and there is such a word as "no" Your husband deserves better. When you got married, you married him not all to the other guys you sleep around with. Your loyalty belongs to him. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
2006-11-05 07:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by gingersnapgrad2003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-02-12 06:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not deserve such a good husband..
Your husband is a fool..
He should divorce you..
Keep it up and you will get your divorce..
No one can stop you from cheating ..It is up to you...
Sooner or later, it will catch up with you....
2006-11-05 08:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋