he's my closest friend and he's the only one that i can talk
to when i'm down, mad, sad. he's been there for me whenever i needed him
but it was a shoc for me when he told that he is in love with me
i couldn't talk to him. and it's been a month & i'm totally confused
i don't konw what to do.help me please !!!
2006-11-05 07:07:22 · 13 answers · asked by sky angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First off are you in a relationship? If so is it serious? Secondly, it is always good to be in a relationship with someone who can offer that type of companionship. He sounds like a keeper just explain to him exactly how you feel and be HONEST! He will understand remember he is still that friend you can talk to. And email me a wedding invatation. lol
2006-11-05 07:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by RHONDA L R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say that it was a shock, do you mean that you don't reciprocate his feelings? It could be quite awkward for the both of you, but make sure you talk about it. Don't make up things like saying that you value the friendship too much to take the risk, say it only if you really mean it. If you don't have feelings for him, tell him, he will be hurt but if he's really such a good friend he will respect and accept your decision. Your feelings could change over time though, so don't burn your bridges, if he really cares that much about you, he could very well be the right person for you. But it's you who has to decide that. In the meantime, try your best to return to the old friendship, and try not to lead him on; this will be hard, because he will always be secretly hoping you might change your mind and he will tend to interpret any niceness on your part as a possible indication of romantic feelings. But if your friendship is that strong, it will survive.
Above all, don't avoid each other, talk about it.
2006-11-05 07:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
expensive candy tranny mess, Your pal sounds fab and that i'm specific she'll like it. yet do no longer bypass and seem in finished night gown with sparkly stilletos immediately. Drop tricks. combine it into the play time. perhaps advise you attempt on her skirt (yet no longer the footwear - ladies freak out approximately their footwear being streched) or change tops or something. and not in any respect forget to point how a lot you like ladies. Oh it ought to help in case you're saying how a lot you like Eddie Izzard and how humorous you think of he's. (NB. Eddie Izzard is a on the instant stand-up comic and bypass fabric cloth cabinet) T x
2016-10-15 10:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by spates 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be totally honest. Tell him you love and trust him as your dearest friend and you are flattered by what he told you, but let him know you are not interested in him as a boyfriend. Avoiding him will only make matters very uncomfortable for both of you and you definitely don't want to lose the special friendship the two of you have always shared.
He had the courage to place his heart in your hands, so please be very gentle with it as you place it back into his hands.
2006-11-05 07:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't talked to him for a month? That must have been rough on the both of you. How do you feel about him? Could you be more than friends? Would you want to be? Figure that out, then call him as soon as possible.
2006-11-05 07:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring him/ not talking to him hurts him, and you don't want that, do you? You have to find out if you love him- how you really feel, and talk to him about it. Nothing hurts more than being ignored. If he's your closest friend, he should accept whatever you feel. Do both of you a favor and face him, don't hurt your friendship by ignoring him.
2006-11-05 07:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by dulce et decorum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel abought him. Don't give him false hopes. It wouldn't be fair to him. Sever ties or just be common friends. Maybe he has been in love with you for a long while and suddenly got the confidence to tell you his feelings.
2006-11-05 07:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by redbass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him go for it. If not tell him you just want to be friends. Know that if you choose to go for it that you will be changing your friendship and it won't ever be the same. But it could be wonderful. Make sure you look deep at want you want and don't make the wrong choice just to spare his feelings.
2006-11-05 07:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Do you love him in the same way he loves you? Tell him how you feel, and be honest. If he's a true friend he'll appreciate your honesty and respect your feelings.
2006-11-05 07:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how do you feel about him? that would help...it seems like you like him quite a bit too but maybe your afraid to say/admit it...if not then let him knw...its better to resolve it now before it gets way outa hand...trust me i was in a similar position with a close friend about a yr ago...i told her how i felt...and now we're still strong friends...good luck;)x
2006-11-05 07:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by chris c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋