My sister's 3 year old is out of control....any advice???

Question

This boy is a nut...lol. He is absolutly into everything.... EVERYTHING. They are staying here with my husband and I temporarily and he is such a challenge. He has in the past week dumped an entire container of baby powder on the floor, finger painted with Balmex on his bed, emptied the clean laundry hamper all over the floor, dumped sweet oil all over his bed and that stuff doesn't come out, ripped up books, ate chapstick, thrown his entire plate of food onto the floor face down on my carpet......the list goes on and on. We try to keep an eye on him at all times but there are 3 other kids here too. (ages 6mos, 21 mos, 5yrs) I mean you have to be able to make dinner and give the other kids attention and baths too. It seems like if you turn your back for one minute and he is climbing to the highest shelf to get anything he isn't allowed. We try to keep the things that can hurt him up....but there are 7 people in a 2 bedroom place....it is hard. Nap and bed are a disaster!...more to come

Nap and bed are horrible! Unless you stay in the room he WON"T stay in bed. He gets into every drawer, cupboard, tote, box, anything he can find....and it isn't practical at all for one person to be able to sit for an hour at the least in the room with him every night! The other kids need attention too. My sister works from 4pm till 10 pm so I have to put them all to bed. Usually the 6mo old is up at their bed time so he needs stuff....I am just at a loss as to what to do for him. My sister has tried so many things and I am looking for good ideas on ways to help us all. I want him to be happy too ....it is such a challenge....I love him dearly. When he is being good he is so sweet and loving. But sadly that is only like 30% of the time. We want to figure this all out soon as my sister will be movign on her own and will have to deal with this on her own completely. I appreciate all good answers! And please don't say spank or be strict...they don't work with him....Thank you

Trust me he isn't bored....we are there with him constantly...reading to them, playing with them....can't really go outside right now cause it is muddy and snowy....but in the summer they did....we keep their minds active...he just won't ever stop. WHen we are reading he will hit the book, or rip it....won't be qyiet....my 21 month old sits better than he does. And dinner every night ends with food everywhere...and we sit righ tthere...aside from feeding him it is a horrible mess.

My sister just left her husband and moved 14 hours home...but her son was like this with both parents too....it is just the same.

And I am really looking for serious answers....no idiots looking for 2 points or I will report you!

Answer 1

SPANK HER BEAT HER LOCK HER IN THE CLOSET FLUSH HER DOWN THE TIOLET!

Answer 2

If you aren't willing to be strict, that is the problem. There is no solution if you don't want to discipline. If he is allowed to run around wild, with no boundries, that is not doing him any favors. So many parents/caregivers don't want to be the 'bad guy', so they let their child do what they want. The child sees this as the parent not caring enough to set limits, if they don't get good attention by being good, they will take bad attention by being naughty. What are you REALLY teaching him? If he only gets paid attention to while acting out, that's what he'll do. You need to expect his mother to PARENT him, or just keep accepting going around cleaning up after all his messes. If a child is acting up to that degree, the problem of lack of discipline has been a long standing one. Spanking is not needed, DISCIPLINE is. He needs to be picked up and put into the corner EVERY TIME he misbehaves. If you are not willing to draw the line with the child, don't complain about his behaviour, because what you are seeing is the natural result of a child without rules. Praise him for good behaviour, DISCIPLINE him for bad behaviour. This is YOUR home. If your sister is not willing to parent her child, tell her she must leave. That will start her on the right track. Stop worrying about being the bad guy, and start worrying about what will be best for the CHILD in the long run. I'm not attacking you by telling you this, I am telling you you need to do what is BEST for everyone involved.

Answer 3

there are already enough children to try an take care of an keep watch over,, he's 3yrs not 30yrs,, whoop his ***,, let him know that ur incharge,, take away privilages an play time.. a good stern *** whooping will soon get through to him,, no matter how much he whines or begs about having to follow rules put ur foot down.. it's not child abuse it's called disipline..

Answer 4

Maybe he is acting out for attention, did you ever watch the show that brings in the Nanny - I believe it is on ABC? She uses time out rooms, mats, whatever is readily available. It might be worth a try giving the little tyke a time out, and showing him there are consequences to his bad actions.

Best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 5

Watch his diet. Is he eating a lot of processed foods and sugar? That can have a profound effect on behavior. He needs a lot of water, and more natural foods, and lots of veggies and fruits. If he has lots of soda, even diet soda, it can affect him adversely. This is the way I'd go. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

sounds like he's going through a bad case of minipause right now & you are getting child abused with all those kids. Godspeed!

Answer 7

SPANK HIM! he deserves it.yell at him any thing. take somthing away that he really likes keep it until he stops getting into everything. if he starts to get into things again take it away agian until he stops

Answer 8

set boundaries, have consequenses, and stick to them.

Obviously this kid has lived the past three years thinking he's the boss and not being shown otherwise, hopefully you'll have better luck than your sister did.

Answer 9

spank him then put him on time out do not let a three year run your household,don't give him any treats or let him watch tv ,he can read get excercise

Answer 10

a big dose of "act right" spanking