I have asked him and asked him not to-he even asked me out for a drink, even though he knows I'm married. He says he knows that my husband is disabled.... My boss says she'll take to him if I want...
2006-11-05 06:38:07 · 13 answers · asked by pitmanette 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I hate that! Can you defer this person to someone else when he comes in?
What your husband is is none of his business anyway. How direct and insistent have you been when you asked him not to. Maybe you and your boss should talk to him about it. Having someone of authority, in on the conversation shouldn't hurt, and will most likely help. Especially if your boss is a man. That is what I would do.
2006-11-05 06:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks the price of his business is being able to say and do as he wishes. My wife, being in sales, deals with this quite often. She looks at it from a cost analysis perspective. Is putting up with garbage worth not having the account? How much money would you lose? If it's possible, let someone else handle him.
You could try the direct approach. Just straight up tell him that you area a professional offering professional services. Place high value on your product and your service. Resell him, then lay it on the line. Your relationship is to be strictly business from this point on, period.
2006-11-05 14:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by Griff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start documenting every and all inappropriate remarks he makes. Tell your supervisor to go ahead and talk to him. Write down things he says that could be hostile. After a few more weeks, go to the supervisor again with a copy of the documented comments. Tell her that you will file sexual harrassment charges the next time he says something inappropriate. Hate for him to be fired but he'll be fairly warned to stop this behavior - which is illegal!! Good luck to you - so sorry you are going thru this. The guy needs to be "broken" of his habit.
2006-11-05 14:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At one time I was annoyed when I was called "hon" or dear." I realized the person is being cordial and I should not be offended. It's one of those "little" annoyances in life. It's not worth me getting agitated over as the comment is is short-lived. It no longer bothers me.
2006-11-05 14:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to document everything in writing, including times, dates, be as specific as possible. Also document discussions with your boss about his behavior and her proposed action. If he is elderly, he probably means well; however, it sounds like he's a creep if he is asking you out for drinks. Since he ignored your request to desist the familiarity, have your boss speak to him.
2006-11-05 15:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My name is Mrs. whatever and I insist you address me as such. Be firm and client or not you don't have to be treated without respect. Men will treat you just as you want them to. Inform this crude person you are not his hon and ever time he addresses you as hon say" what *** hole". regardless where it's at. that will break him.
2006-11-05 14:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have repeatedly asked this client to stop making advances and he has refused, you need to drop him.
2006-11-05 14:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by miyazaki75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being such a prima donna.
Its down to woman like you that men hardly ever open doors for ladys or give up their seat on the bus anymore.
Get over yourself.
2006-11-05 14:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if it keeps up, you got the beginning of a sexual harrasment suit. Make sure your employer knows your feelings.
2006-11-05 14:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by vindezeal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk. Yes, have your boss talk to him. He is harassing you and it may get worse.
2006-11-05 14:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by Pepper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋