How do I cope with an assigned seat near nasty sex people?

Question

In my art class we sit at 4 person tables. On my side of the table I sit with one of my girlfriends. On the opposite side of the table these 2 pervs flirt and talk about sex. My friend is like a buffer, like a wall that seperates me from the pervs if you will. What do I do if she doesn't show up for class or if she moves away? I realy don't like being around couples, especialy perverted ones. The only other option I can think of is sitting with the mentally challenged kids =b I dont wanna switch tables because I dont like people that I don't know, and yes, I know that sounds stupid, and I don't want to sit with the mentally challenged kids for obvious reasons. She might switch schools and I feel like I should be a better friend and carry on more interesting conversations so she might stay. How would I go about starting and carrying on interesting conversation and what do I if she leaves or doesn't show up for class? I can't get the pervs in trouble because my teacher hates me.

Answer 1

Well, being a teacher, the first thing I was going to suggest was to talk to your teacher. I still think that's the best option. And I'm sure your teacher does not hate you. Take it from me; I've taught 14 years and have never hated any kid. Teachers may get irritated and occasionally ticked off by immaturity, but hate? Nahhh. Hate takes energy, and I know I have better things to spend my energy on. :)

You have a right not to be sexually harassed, and it sounds like these people are out to inflict their sexuality on everyone. What a downer, and how creepy. Sex is nice, but it should also be private, because as you know, no one wants to hear what other people get up to, especially not in a public place like a school, where you're there to learn.

Another option is to confront the pervs and say something like, "When you talk about sex it makes me very uncomfortable because we're in school to learn. Could you please keep it to yourselves?" That way you've stood up to them, made your thoughts and feelings known, and it's up to them to be reasonable and comply with your very reasonable, rational request. If they don't, then they're jerks, and you can report them to your teacher and feel completely justified, since you did try to remedy the situation on your own. And if they get mad at you, to hell with them. They're being creepy and obnoxious, so they needed to be reined in. And if they're too obnoxious and rude to see that some things are appropriate and some things are inappropriate, then no loss. All you have to do is sit at a table with them, not talk to them or befriend them.

I also understand that you really want to keep your friend, but you're having issues. Understandable. I also understand about just wanting to sit where you sit and not be bothered. So I'd suggest talk to your teacher; he or she can put a stop right away to the obnoxious, inappropriate sex talk.

I would also recommend making more friends than just one. It's easier said than done, especially if you are an introvert and/or shy, or you feel like you need just one or two good friends. But even a "polite chat" acquaintance is good to have in class. You may get to know the person and be deeper friends, or you may just chat politely. Either way, if you put yourself out there, you'll have met someone new and you may wind up with a good friend.

As for conversation... the art of conversation is a skill. If you're a quiet person and not overly outgoing and bubbly and "never meet a stranger" then it's difficult. People who are bubbly, outgoing, etc., are called extroverts, and most extroverts will talk to just about anyone. I'd suggest that you talk about what really interests you. Develop your hobbies and interests. Try new things. But you should already have some things that interest you. Talk to people, and be prepared that some people won't share your interests, but some will. And maybe those people will become new friends, or at least nice people you can talk to sometimes and spend time with.

By the way, the pervs deserve to get into trouble, because what they're doing is wrong and socially clueless, and it borders on sexual harassment. For the good of the entire class, tell your teacher. And work with your teacher -- he or she is there to help you and guide you.

Good luck. I hope you aren't harassed, that your friend stays with you, and that when you're ready, you meet some new people and that you develop yourself and your hobbies and interests. You sound like a smart and interesting kid to me. Good luck!

Cheers, K

Answer 2

You're too dependent on your friend. If your friend leaves or whatever, you have to assert yourself by making a decision for yourself and do what will ensure your own peace of mind. You should not use your friends as buffers -- in this case you're using your friend as a crutch so you don't have to deal with an unpleasant situation.

You have to see you have two choices - 1. stay at the table and put up with them, keep your mouth shut about it and get on with your work - or 2. switch tables and talk to new people. You'd be better off with option 2, probably. Good luck, and don't worry so much about what other people think. If you're uncomfortable, do something about it.

Answer 3

You should go to your principal since your teacher hates you and see to that the problem is nipped in the bud.(stopped and taken care of.)

Answer 4

OK wat ever u do dont try to join them ion that stuff just to fit in.