i have been with my hubby for 6 years. We have sex everyday sometimes twice a day and i dont think ive ever had an orgasm can you explain to me how you know youve had one and how it feels?
2006-11-05 06:20:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he gets mad if i dont make alot of moaning and screaming sounds so i have to fake it just to please him
2006-11-05 06:26:47 · update #1
If you have to ask, chances are that you have not had one... When it happens your whole body wants to cry out in pleasure. Does your husband realize that you are questioning this?
I have other things I would like to write but don't really want to say it here.... feel free to contact me for more. By all means I am not an expert, but I do understand your question with some experience....
2006-11-05 06:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, have you discussed this with your hubby? Trust me if you have had an orgasm you would know it...
Maybe your husband is not taking the time to thoroughly stimulate you.
Have you tried masturbating yourself to an orgasm? Then you could show him or teach him. Also he should be educated on G-spot stimulation.
An orgasm is pretty difficult to explain, my best discription would be that waves of pleasure pulsate from the vaginal area to the outer most parts of your body. It's almost seizure like and once you've had the first one, many more can follow if you are with an experienced lover.
You might want to sign up for a "Human Sexuallity" class at the local community college. Some good books would be "Idiots Guide to Tantra. A good site to visit is www.tantra.com
Talk to your husband, sex is a form of communication. But words are often needed and desired.
peace
2006-11-05 06:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would definitely know if you had an orgasm or not. It is not uncommon for women to not acheive orgasm...almost 46% of women have difficulty. So don't think that you are alone. You need to remember that for women, our biggest sex organ is our brains. We need to be mentally prepared for sex. Transistioning from wife/mommy mode into women mode.
Most women require direct clitoral stimulation and pressure to achevie orgasm. So using a small vibrator or bullet during sex directly applied to the clitoris can help. Also, certain positions allow for greater clitoral contact, like a woman being on top.
It takes women a good 30 minutes to be fully aroused. Slow things down, take your time. Quickies have their place, and can be fantastic, but cannot always be the norm.
Are you still enjoying the sex even without orgasm? Or are you doing it so often just to please him. It is important to own your sensuality and not neglect your own needs and desires. A common myth is that your partner is responsible for your orgasm. WE are responsible for own orgasms! Remember that good girls can have great sex!
Masturbation and self-pleasure are a must! You need to know what feels good for yourself and then you will be able to communicate this to your partner in a helpful and non threatening way. A nudge here, a sigh there, mention that whatever he is doing to you that feels right is perfect and not to stop. Communication in the bedroom is key!
I talk to hundreds of women each year about this issue through my business as a Passion Parties Consultant. So believe me, you are not alone! There have been some great books mentioned. There are lots of resources out there to help.
2006-11-05 07:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Passion Diva Trishia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's terrible, i have one each time my husband and i have sex and we have sex just as much as you do. I know i had one because you can tell my the way you whole body tremble with all over pleasure and all you can do is just scream, its hard to explain,
what i do to orgasm is i get on top and grind into him/but you have to do is close you eye and focus on the fact that his penis is inside of you and if you focus the pleasure will come. Its just a suggestion.
2006-11-05 06:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by chase 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the public library and get your self some books on this and other sexual problems, it is an old book , but it is a good one I would recommend The Joy of Sex. it will answer any of your questions, and you will no longer be in the dark
2006-11-05 06:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could start by exploring ur own body that way when ur with him u know where ur g-spot is and u could ask him to play with it awhile and when u find it believe me u will know what a orgasm feels like.
2006-11-05 07:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by e_girl24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like the most intense pleasure you've ever felt. If you had one you would know it. I think you need to start exploring your body...find out how to give yourself one..maybe in a warm bath, and then let him know how to give you one. Happy Playing
2006-11-05 06:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you have one...you'll know.
Time for some therapy for you two... he's either doing something wrong or you are having some genetic issues.
2006-11-05 06:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it feels about like a delightful lightening down your pants an all over you...lol
2006-11-05 06:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not explain it to you.....But if you don't know if you have had one....YOU HAVEN'T..That is the best advice I have for you!
2006-11-05 06:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋