we are not loaded but we are very secure financially. my husband always wants to blow our money, instead of put it up or spend it responsibly. instead he buys speaker **** for our vehicles etc. that we don't even need. how do i make him quit, well not make him quit but show him that what he is doing is absurd and that it is going to break us financially if he doesn't stop? thanks to all in advance
2006-11-05 06:16:29 · 7 answers · asked by Holly D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is needed is that you tell him to stop blowing the money or go sleep in his car that he bought the speakers. Let him know that you two are to be more responsible for the money that God has bless you with. Next pray for him and ask God to help you stay calm until he changes because we can't change a person they have to want to change themselves. We can pray for them and allow them room to change. God bless you.
2006-11-05 06:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out the reason why. Is he doing it because he has another issue? Is he not happy? Does he feel that you spned money on your needs but he can't? Or is it his interests or hobby? Strengthing your relationship with him, getting closer where you trust and love each other is the only long-lasting solution to your problem. Make him realize that marriage is a partnership and both have a stake in making the future bright and secure. Good luck!
2006-11-05 15:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by thunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A possible solution might be to have separate accounts, split up the bills, you pay half, he pays half. You could even have an account just to pay bills from, and your own personal account , and save your money that way. If he blows his money , and is broke, too bad for him. I had to do that when I was married, or my ex would have spent every dime I ever made.....on useless junk.
2006-11-05 14:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if you can have him go to a financial adviser, this will help you project, what you can have for the future, they can put it on paper, so he can see, what his financial status will look like!
2006-11-05 14:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard question to answer my husband and i were having that problem the way it was solved was by him losing his job and we had to re-evaluate our financial situation. now we're great with our money.
2006-11-05 14:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by chase 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go buy yourself something that you want that he will never use and show him how it feels, or have his account access restricted to withdrawing money out of it
2006-11-05 14:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THE MONEY HE SPENDS TELL HIM YOU WANT THE SAME AMOUNT
THAN YOU CAN SAVE YOURS
2006-11-05 14:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋