i have a problem with sex, even though i sleep with a girl that i may think is gorgeous, i cant maintain an erection long enough to come, or sometimes i wont get an erection at all. I can masturbate and come by looking at porn n stuff, but whem it comes to sex, it jus doesnt work, can someone please tell me why this happens and how i can remedy this, cos i really want to get turned on by the girls that i sleep with, thanks for your help
2006-11-05 06:13:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
maybe nerves.
Try something.
Next time you're with a girl, do not focus on sex. Focus on intimacy instead. Start by giving her a backrub. Make sure you've got some massage lotion. Then move on to her arms, her hands, her butt, her legs & feet. Make it slow & sensual. Don't forget her neck & face! Even get a few scented candles & put some instrumental music on in the background.
As you do this, you'll be focusing on intimacy. Your ability to relax with increase as you're talking...touching...getting to know each other. Both of you be nude. But keep it focused on her being pleased & you being relaxed. Maybe go down on her, but you refrain from getting off until you feel comfortable.
2006-11-05 06:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 07:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by peentu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pressure to perform, stress, personal thoughts about whether or not you will measure up, expectations to get it up soon, desires, I would say most of the time it is mental..Good luck keep trying you'll get it and everything will be ok..If not consult a Dr. for possible blood restictions in the scrotum..
2006-11-05 06:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by flashrtp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to see your doctor and ask the same question. Your doctor is trained, qualified, and licensed to give medical advice. People on this site are not.
Chow!!
2006-11-05 08:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it because you masturbate too often? If you do, try not to and see what happens.
2006-11-05 06:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by ask me ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop jacking for a while,and that might work.get some enhancers,like horny goat weed.
2006-11-05 06:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting head before penetration it might help
2006-11-05 13:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU A DIABETIC?
GET SOME VIAGRA.
THAT WILL WORK
2006-11-05 06:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are gay.
2006-11-05 10:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋