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I'm too shy, I can't communicate with poeple around me very well. but I hate to be in this way. how can I face my shyness?

2006-11-05 06:00:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

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I think shyness is caused by a lack of self-confidence. I'm a former shy girl. I've done a lot of work on my own self-esteem and self-confidence over the years.

Turns out the better I like myself, the more I like other people, too. If you have true self-confidence, you won't worry so much about what other people think about you, and then you can start really having fun interacting with other people.

So, work on your self-confidence. Know that you're perfect, beautiful, and funny just the way you are. Give yourself big mental hugs often. You'll get there!!!

2006-11-05 06:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by locolady98 4 · 0 0

We all have traits some are overly aggressive, they only way to over come your fear is to understand where the root causes are. Are you shy cause your afraid of people passing judgment on you because of what you say? that could be an acceptance problem, you may want to be accepted by everyone...however not everybody will accept us (their problem), not everyone will agree with you (a difference of opinion), and yes, sometimes we make an *** of ourselves by a slip of the tongue (we must apologize), just remember that even the best talkers can be fake and not truly be saying the truth, isn't that similar to shyness, they would rather say whats popular than speak openly about what they truly think. practice, practice, practice, since your a female try saying hi to a female stranger, or in the office strike up a little conversation with a female stranger, once you begin that you will see how normal you are.
last word, somebody who is too bold can make an *** out of themselves more often, so speak your mind not your emotions in a social setting.

2006-11-05 06:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by travelin_jalapeno 3 · 0 0

that's organic, y'understand, to be slightly shy of strangers. If we weren't, we would have died out as a species earlier. yet I meant to place in writing this the different day once I examine your reaction to Daoie's question on shyness that debilitating shyness and awkward shyness are countless issues. Your character is in all probability in basic terms superb. No crime in being an introvert, or socially withdrawn, and additionally you do no longer scare human beings away along with your character (or no person would invite you bowling), and additionally you do no longer ensue right here as El Chango at some point and Tara J the subsequent. yet you in all probability should not be feeling bodily ill around crowds of strangers or social circumstances. if your coronary heart is a poundin' such as you're looking forward to a bomb to bypass off on a popular foundation in basic terms with the aid of fact you're in a room with persons- properly which would be properly worth sorting out. (emphasize popular foundation) Shyness customarily would properly be solved via self belief construction workouts, yet its continually properly worth sorting out issues that reason actual soreness.

2016-10-03 07:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by regula 4 · 0 0

Watch people till you see someone that is like you would like to be.

Then, when you are in a situation where you are wanting to turn around and run, or sink deep inside your shell - just pretend you are the person you have picked out to imitate. Auto-pilot!

Just do what they would do and say what they would say, etc. Pretty soon you will be yourself and you will have added that dimension to your own personality.

It will be part of you to be outgoing and friendly. You won't even remember why you used to be so shy! It works!! Good luck to you.

2006-11-05 06:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 0 0

as someone recently said to me do something you hate doing everyday. So if you see someone in the hall that you don't know or whatever just smile and say hi...and move on and let things take their course..or join a debate club where you have to get up and argue things..the more you do it the more confindence you will gain and your shyness should go away....good luck.

2006-11-05 06:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by samshel1 3 · 0 0

come up with questions for people to answer. The questions will make it easier to have a conversation. the people that u are talking to will feel that you are interested in them and they will also ask u questions as well to find out who you are. questions can be from home life, schooling, work related, if they have traveled any where recently. it is easier to push yourself out your comfort zone when you have a plan.

2006-11-05 06:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by littleabnar 2 · 0 0

Be strong and speak up. I joined the military and that did it for me. Seems I had to yell to be heard, and I guess I never stopped.
Dont worry about offending people, dont be a people pleaser. Speak to strangers for practice. If you mess up, so what, they probably wont see you again. Have fun with it.

2006-11-05 06:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if u find it hard in face to face situations then try phone conversations first. then that will help you build a bond with that person, which sould decrease your shyness. hopefully, then you will have more confidence for face to face interaction.

2006-11-05 06:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Garry M 1 · 0 0

Put yourself in situations which challenge you.

For example, take a course where you know you will have to interact with people. Join a group of any sort which interests you..

Things will improve!

Best of luck! :)

2006-11-05 06:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0 0

You need to start being more spontaneous...have you ever consider becoming a stripper? that might help. no pervertism. jk lol. Anyways, you might need to become more confident and don't think people will eat you or something, just be yourself and try not to be insecure if you are.

2006-11-05 06:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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