I found out when I was pregnant with my 3rd child that my hubby was watching porno. He was calling in sick to work and watching hours of porno every day. I was ticked and explained I didn't like it. Now, 10 years later, I have found some porno in his truck, video's and mags. Is it ok? normal? rude? cheating?
2006-11-05 05:38:37 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mom found my dad's porn movies and crashed them with a hammer and then i further destroyed them by jumping up and down and stomping them. That trash is degrading and should go out of business.
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2006-11-05 05:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-27 05:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Also Long As He Aint Sleeping Wit Another Woman Then It Isn't A Big Deal Let Him Watch Porn He Might Learn A Trick Or 2 4 U.
2006-11-05 08:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by 06ThugMissez06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem with a married man watching porn if it's not affecting his responsibilities to the marriage. Many (most) wives don't provide adequate sex to their mates, and porn is definitely a better outlet than an affair. But only as long as it's just a backup for when the wife has "a headache" or is "too tired." If the husband starts having "headaches" when the wife's interested, then there's a problem.
Sounds like in your case it is a big problem - skipping work to watch it indicates an addiction.
2006-11-05 07:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by tex37curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this a problem--at least for you. I think the larger question is how this makes you feel--unattractive, threatened, afraid? What is more important is exploring your own response to the porn.
For many women, porn is problematic because so much of it denigrates women. You might try watching it with your partner and then sharing your feelings with him. Watching porn together can be a very erotic experience as long as both partners are comfortable sharing their responses.
Porn that exploits women or hurts women is not okay. Porn involving children is not okay for they never have equal power with their oppressors.
Sounds like a great topic to open up a conversation that could bring you and your partner closer together rather than apart.
2006-11-05 05:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by arabesque 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how you look at it. My husband attempted to look at it. Notice the word ATTEMPTED. And I let him know how it made me feel. The women in those movies are airbrushed as they are in the magazines and so forth making "normal" women in most cases feel not as pretty and sometimes even inferior. I personally could never live up to Jeanna Jameson, and frankly wouldn't want to. I find porn stars gross with low self esteem. It is rude and since you two are married it is your home to and if you do not want it in your home you have the right not to have it in your home. And this will get me the thumbs down but oh well. If he's looking odds are he is fantasizing about it and that is MENTALLY cheating and cheating regardless of if there is physical touch or not is CHEATING.
As for the lady above me that says we are OBLIGATED to have sex with our husbands bite my *** the only things we are obligated to do is pay taxes! Its our bodies not their play fields. We have a choice if we want to have sex or not and shouldnt feel as if we MUST do it.
But is it "normal" i think our society has made it acceptable there for it is consindered normal. Maybe watch it with him.
2006-11-05 05:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I wouldn't consider it cheating but I know you feel betrayed. If everything else in your relationship is on the up and up then I wouldn't worry about it. With 3 kids I am sure you don't have time or the energy to help your husband release his sexual build up so just let him do it on his own. At least he's not trying to release it with someone else. If you hadn't got so ticked in the first place he wouldn't have to hid it in his truck. As far as missing work to stay at home and watch porn, that's a whole other story. THAT I would be ticked off about.
2006-11-05 05:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
if your husband is lying in the office that he is sick just to watch porno at home, i guess this is not ok anymore. you must help him solve this his problem of porno addiction.
2006-11-05 06:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's disgusting. My husband used to look at it on the internet and I was really hurt by it because it made me feel like I wasn't enough for him. If your husband is doing it a lot then he might have a problem with it. I've heard it can be addicting. If you have a problem with it you should address it with him and let him know how it makes you feel. If you don't care that he looks at it then just let him do his thing. I personally would consider it cheating because he's lusting after another woman's beauty.
2006-11-05 05:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I once knew a wise old woman where I used to work state"It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home to eat".All i would add to that is make sure you got the goods at home to feed him.If he's hiding it from you it's just cause you've made him feel guilty about it
2006-11-05 06:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by timebomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋